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At 42, I’m Married to the Woman Who Was My Best Friend Since We Were 14—From Sitting Together at School Desks With No Romance, Through Failed Relationships and Divorce, to Realising After Decades That Love Had Been Growing All Along

Im forty-two, married to the woman whos been my best mate since we were fourteen. We met at secondary

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Claire, honestly, come on, Julia is eyeing her old cotton dress as if it were some questionable relic

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“Not Happy? There’s the Door,” Julia Told Her Uninvited Guests For thirty years, Julia kept quiet. When her husband spoke, she nodded. When her mother-in-law arrived unexpectedly, she put the kettle on. When her sister-in-law turned up with bags, Julia settled her into the spare room. “Just for a couple of days,” she promised—three months later, she was still there. What could Julia do? Cause a scene—people would say she was a terrible wife. Say no—she’d be labelled heartless. So Julia was used to putting up with things, learning over time to turn a blind eye as her own life became a service station for everyone else’s demands. Her husband, Tony Smith, was a simple man. He worked as a building foreman, loved a good knees-up with a few toasts about friendship and the odd grumble about the boss. He called Julia “my little homemaker” and never could understand why sometimes she cried at night. “If you’re tired, take a break. If the family’s come round, feed them. What could be simpler?” When he died, Julia was left on her own in their three-bedroom London flat on Holloway Road. The funeral went as expected: good spread, plenty of vodka, kind words about “a top bloke.” The family gathered, wept, and left. Julia thought, “That’s it. Maybe now I’ll finally get some peace.” No such luck. A week later, her sister-in-law Val called: “Julia, I’ll pop by tomorrow. Got some shopping for you.” “I don’t need anything, Val.” “Oh, don’t be like that! I’m not coming empty-handed.” Val showed up with a couple of bags of groceries and one demand: let her son, Kieran, stay until he “starts at uni in London.” Julia tried to be polite: “He’ll have halls, won’t he?” “That’s not for ages! Where’s he meant to live in the meantime—the train station?” Julia gave in. Kieran moved into the spare room—untidy: socks in the hallway, plates in the sink, music blasting till midnight. He never started uni, but got a job as a courier—using Julia’s flat as a pit stop. “Kieran, do you think you could move out soon?” she questioned gently after a month. “Auntie Julia, where am I meant to go? Can’t afford rent right now!” Two weeks later, Tony’s daughter from his first marriage, Laura, rolled up—bringing with her thirty years’ worth of resentment and demands: “Dad left you the flat and what did I get? I am his daughter, you know!” Julia had nothing to say—it was all above board, legally hers now. But Laura’s glare suggested she’d robbed her outright. “Do you know how hard it is for me?” Laura ranted. “I’m a single mum, paying for a place I can barely afford!” Julia tried to explain this was her only home, she had no money, no idea how she’d cope. Laura wasn’t interested in understanding—she wanted what she saw as justice. And so it began. The family started visiting more often: mother-in-law popping in with “advice” about selling the flat for something smaller, Val dropping in with yet another cousin, Laura back again with new demands. With each visit, Julia made tea, set the table, and braced for disappointment. Then one day, they started talking openly about the flat. “Julia, why do you need three bedrooms on your own?” said Val, slurping her tea. “Sell up, buy a little place. Use the money to help the kids.” “What kids?” Julia replied, confused. “Laura. Kieran. They’re struggling.” Julia looked at her guests—Val, Laura, mother-in-law—and realised: they weren’t here to support her. They’d come to carve things up. “If you don’t like it,” Julia said quietly, “you know where the door is.” A hush fell. “What did you say?” Val asked slowly. “I said: get out. Out of my home.” They stared at her as if she’d suddenly started speaking Chinese. Or swearing. “Who do you think you are?” Val protested. “We’re family!” “Family? The sort that only comes round for a meal or to watch the TV?” Val appealed to her mother: “See? I said she was a stuck-up little madam!” Mother-in-law just watched in silence, as always, sighing as if Julia had let everyone down again. “Valerie,” Julia said, “You lot have spent thirty years telling me how to live. How to please my husband. How to set a table. And when I cried at night, you know what you said? ‘Put up with it. We all do.’ Remember?” Mother-in-law pursed her lips. “Well, I did put up with it. But now—enough. My patience is gone, used up, like the last bit of butter in the dish. All gone.” Val grabbed her bag: “I’ll tell Kieran! He’ll know what you’re really like!” “Tell him. But take him with you. Tomorrow. Or I’ll put his things on the landing myself.” They stormed out, slamming the door so hard the light fitting rattled. Julia stood alone in the kitchen, hands shaking, heart pounding. She poured herself a glass of water and downed it. Then she wondered: “What have I done?” But then thought: “What did I really do? Sent uninvited guests packing from my own flat?” That night, sleep didn’t come—not guilt, just a washing machine of thoughts churning round and round. Maybe they were right: maybe she was selfish and cruel. Maybe she should have just put up with it. But in the morning, everything felt clear. Patience is for the short-term. She’d had thirty years of it. That’s not patience—that’s surrender. Kieran was gone in two days, Val collected him, studiously not looking at Julia. He muttered something about “grumpy old witch” as he packed. Julia just stood silent—no tears, no apologies, not anymore. A week later, Laura called: “Mum and I were thinking—” she started cautiously. “Your mum—she died in ’92. Val’s just my ex-mother-in-law,” Julia interrupted. Flat silence. Laura hadn’t seen that coming. “Okay, but look… Let’s not fall out. You know Dad loved you.” “He did, in his own way. But the flat is mine—legitimately. I owe no one anything.” “But really, is it fair…” “Fair?” Julia smiled. “Tell you what ‘fair’ would be: if, just once in thirty years, any of you had rung to say ‘Happy Birthday.’ Or called, not to scrounge money, but just for a chat. That would be fair.” “You’re so bitter,” Laura replied coldly. “Loneliness is turning you hard.” “No. I just stopped pretending.” The weeks stretched out, slow and aimless. Julia went to her job as a hospital cleaner, came home, ate alone. Mrs. Clarke from next door popped round with homemade pies. “You alright, love? Not feeling blue?” “I’m fine.” “Your lot not been to see you?” “Nope.” “Good,” said Mrs. Clarke, surprisingly. “I watched them for years and thought: when will you realise you’re too soft? Proud of you.” For the first time in years, Julia grinned—truly grinned. The worst part wasn’t the family’s upset, but the silence. In the evening, there was no one to say “hello” or share a cuppa with. And Julia realised: she had never lived her own life. Now? Now came the hard part—learning to live her own way. And that was more terrifying than any shouting match with Val. A month later, Val returned, unannounced, with Kieran, mother-in-law, and Laura—an invasion. Julia opened the door—there they all were, lined up on the landing. “Well, Julia,” said Val, “changed your mind yet?” “Changed my mind about what?” “The flat. You going to sell?” Julia looked at each face—these people really believed she’d crack after a few weeks alone. That she’d beg them all to return. “Come in then,” she said. “You’re already here.” They sat around the kitchen. Mother-in-law checked the fridge, Laura flicked through her phone, Val folded her arms across the table from Julia. “You know you can’t cope with all this alone. The bills. Repairs. And why do you need all this space?” “I like it,” Julia answered calmly. “But you’re alone!” Laura snapped, waving her phone. “Here’s an idea: sell the flat, buy a little place out in the suburbs, have three hundred grand leftover. Give me a hundred for my daughter and me, Kieran gets a hundred for uni, you keep a hundred for retirement.” Julia stared at Laura—those manicured nails, designer handbag. “Let me get this straight,” she said, slowly. “I move to a cheap flat so you can all have a chunk of cash?” “It’s only fair!” protested Laura. “Dad worked for this place all his life!” “No,” Julia said quietly. “He got it from the council, back in ’84, as a young man. Any upgrades were paid by me. With my earnings.” “Oh, don’t be difficult,” Val chimed in. “We’re just being reasonable. We’re family.” Something snapped inside Julia. Like flipping off a light. “Family?” she repeated. “Where was this family when I was in hospital three years ago? Who visited? Val, did you come?” Val shuffled. “Well, I was tied up then…” “And you, Mrs. Smith? Did you ever ring me?” Mother-in-law stared at the window. “And you, Laura? Did you even know I was in hospital?” “No one told me…” Laura mumbled. “Exactly. Not that you cared. Just as you don’t now. You’re here for the flat.” “Julia! Don’t lose your rag,” Val began. “I’m not angry. Just finished.” Julia stood, walked to the door, opened it. “Please leave. Now. And don’t come back.” “You’ve got a nerve!” Laura shouted. “Who do you think you are? You’re not even really family!” “Yes,” Julia replied, “and thank God for it.” Val sprang up: “Tony’d turn in his grave!” “If he knew,” Julia agreed, “he’d bully me into giving in. Like always. But he’s not here. Now it’s up to me.” “You’ll regret this!” hissed Laura. “When you’re old and sick, you’ll come crawling back!” Julia gave a weary smile. “Laura, I’m nearly sixty. For thirty years, I thought being good meant being loved. That if I kept giving in, I’d be valued. Turned out—no. The more I gave, the more you took. So, no. I’ll never come crawling.” They left in silence. Val red-faced, mother-in-law lips pinched, Laura slamming the door. Julia stood in the hall, hands trembling. She went to the kitchen, sat down, and cried—not out of self-pity, but from sheer relief. A week later, Mrs. Clarke called. “Heard you’ve fallen out with the lot of them?” “Not really. Just told the truth.” “Good lass. Listen, I’ve a granddaughter—Kate. Thirty, just split with her husband, lost. Want to meet her? She’s a quiet, hard-working girl.” They met. Kate was shy, a bookkeeper, renting a room in a shared house, and came for tea, lingering, chatting. “Would you like to move in here?” Julia offered. “There’s a spare room. Just pay your share of the bills.” Within a month, Kate moved in. Living with a stranger, it turned out, was easy—so long as you respected each other’s space. Julia signed up at the local library—the very branch where she’d once worked as a librarian, now a reader, finally picking up books she’d always wanted to try. Sometimes she wondered about the family—how were Val and Kieran? Laura and her daughter? Mother-in-law? But she had no urge to call. Not at all. Six months on, Mrs. Clarke told her, “Heard your sister-in-law moved in with Kieran, in the student digs. Said she was lonely in the country.” “Good for her,” Julia replied. “And Laura got married—to some businessman. Living the high life, they say.” “I’m pleased for her.” Mrs. Clarke looked her up and down. “You’re not bitter?” “Why would I be?” “Because they’ve managed without you.” Julia smiled. “Mrs. Clarke, they always managed without me. I just never realised it before.” That evening, Julia sat by her window—dusk, streetlights, people hurrying home. Kate was in the kitchen, singing as she cooked. Julia thought: this is happiness—not in the approval of relatives, but in being able to say “no” and not dying of guilt. Have you ever had to stand your ground with family who won’t take the hint? Friends, don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss a new story!

Dont like it? Youre welcome to leave, declared Julia to her unwelcome visitors. For thirty years, Julia

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My Mother-in-Law Gave Me Her Old Clothes for My 30th Birthday—and I Didn’t Hide My Disappointment

Why did you have to use this cheap mayonnaise in the potato salad? I told you to get proper mayonnaise

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My Husband Left Me for My Sister, Moved in with Her, Then Three Years Later Left Her Too—For Her Best Friend We were married for seven years. Our marriage wasn’t perfect, but it wasn’t bad either. We had a normal life: jobs, a home, a family, Sunday gatherings. My sister was often around. She was always close to us. I never noticed anything odd. On the contrary—it seemed normal that they got along. Sometimes she’d stay for lunch, other times I’d call her for help because I worked all day. I never suspected a thing. Then, on a totally ordinary Thursday, he left early, saying he was going to work. He didn’t come home for lunch. He didn’t return that evening. Nor the next day. On the third day, when he finally picked up the phone, he didn’t apologise or explain. He simply said, “I’m not coming back. I need some space.” I thought it was a midlife crisis, that he’d gone to a mate’s. But that same week a family member told me what no one wanted to say: he was living with my sister. The rumour quickly became reality. My parents found out; so did my uncles and the neighbours. My sister stopped picking up the phone. He didn’t show up near home anymore. A few days later she collected her clothes while I was out. No explanations were given. Everyone just decided there was nothing more to say. They moved in together in another part of town. Then they started turning up at family gatherings—the ones I didn’t attend anymore. My sister said, “You can’t choose who you love—these things just happen.” He claimed he hadn’t been happy with me. I was left on my own—with shame and pain. Thankfully, there were no children; that would’ve made it all so much worse. Three years passed. I carried on with life as best I could. They were still together—or so it seemed. Until one day, once again through other people, I heard they’d split up. He’d left. And he wasn’t alone—now he was with my sister’s best friend, a woman who’d been there from the start, who knew everything, who was a confidante, support, and witness to it all. My sister was devastated. He moved house again, changed his story and his excuses. This time, he said he wasn’t happy with her either, that she was to blame, she was confused. But nobody believed him anymore. Today, our family is still broken. I have no relationship with my sister. She doesn’t speak to her former best friend. And he has never apologised. Never taken responsibility. Is this karma?

My husband left me for my sister. He went to live with her. And then, three years later, he abandoned

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My Husband Brought a Colleague to Our Christmas Dinner, So I Asked Them Both to Leave

Where have you put the napkins? I told you to get the ones with the silver trim they match the tablecloth

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My Husband’s Family Arrived Unannounced at My Countryside Cottage Expecting a Holiday—So I Handed Them Rakes and Shovels Instead

You wouldnt believe the Saturday I had. Picture this: Im at my allotment, up to my elbows in earth, sweat

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My Husband Left Me for My Sister, Moved in with Her, Then Three Years Later Left Her Too—For Her Best Friend We were married for seven years. Our marriage wasn’t perfect, but it wasn’t bad either. We had a normal life: jobs, a home, a family, Sunday gatherings. My sister was often around. She was always close to us. I never noticed anything odd. On the contrary—it seemed normal that they got along. Sometimes she’d stay for lunch, other times I’d call her for help because I worked all day. I never suspected a thing. Then, on a totally ordinary Thursday, he left early, saying he was going to work. He didn’t come home for lunch. He didn’t return that evening. Nor the next day. On the third day, when he finally picked up the phone, he didn’t apologise or explain. He simply said, “I’m not coming back. I need some space.” I thought it was a midlife crisis, that he’d gone to a mate’s. But that same week a family member told me what no one wanted to say: he was living with my sister. The rumour quickly became reality. My parents found out; so did my uncles and the neighbours. My sister stopped picking up the phone. He didn’t show up near home anymore. A few days later she collected her clothes while I was out. No explanations were given. Everyone just decided there was nothing more to say. They moved in together in another part of town. Then they started turning up at family gatherings—the ones I didn’t attend anymore. My sister said, “You can’t choose who you love—these things just happen.” He claimed he hadn’t been happy with me. I was left on my own—with shame and pain. Thankfully, there were no children; that would’ve made it all so much worse. Three years passed. I carried on with life as best I could. They were still together—or so it seemed. Until one day, once again through other people, I heard they’d split up. He’d left. And he wasn’t alone—now he was with my sister’s best friend, a woman who’d been there from the start, who knew everything, who was a confidante, support, and witness to it all. My sister was devastated. He moved house again, changed his story and his excuses. This time, he said he wasn’t happy with her either, that she was to blame, she was confused. But nobody believed him anymore. Today, our family is still broken. I have no relationship with my sister. She doesn’t speak to her former best friend. And he has never apologised. Never taken responsibility. Is this karma?

My husband left me for my sister. He went to live with her. And then, three years later, he abandoned

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Drifts of Destiny

Snowdrifts of Destiny Matthew, a thirty-five-year-old solicitor, had always despised New Years Eve.