My sister turned away at the most difficult moment, even betrayed me, and was very aggressive toward everyone who tried to talk to her.
The history of our relationship had always been difficult, since childhood. As a child she often got into fights and made mischief. She is 6 years younger than me and when the time came for her to go to the university, though her parents didn’t have enough money to educate her in another town, I gave her money for room and board, as from the age of 17 I earned money myself and helped my parents and my sister.
We became closer to each other, she lived with me for a while, I took her on vacations and helped her out. Time went by, she married a very wealthy man, I became the godmother of their child. Everything was fine and once we went on vacation together with our families. She suddenly made a scandal to me and then my husband in a restaurant and we had a big fight because she was just aggressive and shouting nasty things and claims that no one around her understood. After a few days she apologized and there were no more conflicts for a long time, but I understood from her words that she had childish resentments, that my parents had always made an example of me to her and that I did not respect her opinion.
There was a series of bad events in my life – my child’s illness, my husband’s alcoholism, my divorce, losing my job, immigration, and again losing my job and betraying the man I loved. A couple of times I asked her to get bank references because I was making a power of attorney for her before immigration, she refused on the grounds that she had no time to deal with my problems and to go somewhere. Very often I dealt with her requests, passports, cats, banks, and all the issues of life.
And so it happened, I had to return with the child from immigration to my parents, since I do not have my own place (ex-husband took everything, and immigration ate the savings). And here my sister refused temporary housing (1-2 months), although my parents can only sleep on a cot and in the kitchen. She has 5 apartments, which have no tenants, and is not planned (gifts from her husband).
My sister is constantly telling my parents that I will have parties and debauchery and burn down the apartment, saying that her husband forbids me to communicate with them. She keeps saying that I never gave her birthday gifts and many other claims, which is an absolute lie!
She has a strained relationship with her parents too, they often humiliate them, but they help her with the kids. She bought her parents a new car and pays them 2 trips a year, since they are already retired and the main income is only a pension. And so I asked to take the car from my parents and drive with the child to the hospital and other cases, I am an experienced driver with 20 years of experience and without a single accident. They said my sister forbade them to give me a car and drive me, as she registered it in her name, and they do not want to quarrel with her.
From this situation, I found a way out. But I am just shocked by her attitude, I tried to find out the reasons for her aggression, and her negative attitude towards me, but she says, “I do not want to talk about it.
It hurts me very much when a family member, and as I thought close to you, turns away from you in a difficult moment, while I helped her when she needed and supported her morally in the problems in the family and at work, drove, met, fed, took her home.
It really hurt her attitude and understanding that in a difficult moment my friends were ready to help me, but not my own sister!
