My daughter-in-law disliked me from day one. But I tried not to notice it, so as not to offend my son. And when I first congratulated her on her birthday, I realized that she thought I was stupid and shallow. She carelessly took the perfume and flowers I had given her and said I had no taste. I turned it into a joke, saying that I would now give money, but my sister-in-law replied that she didn’t like congratulations. Since then I don’t give her anything, not even flowers. I just told them not to give me anything either, because it was embarrassing, as if I owed them something.
When my grandson was born, I bought a warm walking overalls (for the baby carriage), but my sister-in-law took them back. Said that she and her son would choose their own baby clothes. Her son supported her, said that I do not understand children’s things, there is nothing to waste money. So he supported her opinion that his mother was stupid. I put up with that, too. I gave the overalls to a neighbor who had a grandson.
This year my daughter had a baby girl. I learned from bitter experience, I asked what to buy the baby. My daughter suggested we go to the store together. I paid for everything, and my son-in-law’s parents bought the stroller. I knew my daughter wanted a white stroller, and the matchmakers brought a beige one. They didn’t ask, they wanted it to be a surprise. My daughter didn’t even look happy about it, she said it was the right color for a girl. But if she had said one word that she wasn’t happy, I wouldn’t have stood for it, I would have put my daughter in her place. But it all worked out.
I understand that young people are different now. We were happy for any help from parents, and now they all have expensive smartphones, fancy brand clothes and almost all of them have cars. That’s why there is such an attitude toward parents.
But her daughter-in-law’s discontent didn’t end there. She found out from her daughter that I bought my granddaughter gold earrings, and my grandmother’s earrings for her. They were very beautiful, with a precious stone. I didn’t tell my daughter why I didn’t give my daughter-in-law gifts, so there wouldn’t be animosity between them. That’s why she shared, she even showed me. My daughter-in-law expressed to her son that I gave my granddaughter gold, and I only bring their child candy and fruit.
But how can I give something to my grandson without hearing my own insults?
