We have been living together with my husband’s parents for five years now. We are building our own house, there is still some interior decoration to do. But I would agree to move into an unfurnished house right now, if only to never see my mother-in-law again.
From the first day in this apartment, I was annoyed by the ritual of getting together at a certain time for dinner. My mother-in-law told me that it had always been that way in their family and that they weren’t going to change it for my sake. On the contrary, I have to respect their family traditions and observe them. But I come home from work an hour early, and I have to wait for everyone to get ready, for dinner to heat up, for everyone to sit down at the table. What is this, a New Year’s Eve gathering?
My husband supports my mother, arguing that the table is a good place to socialize and discuss plans. Such pleasant conversations bring the family together. These days, everyone has different work schedules and needs, too, so I do not agree with such an arrangement. It is possible to talk and over a cup of tea, and just for fun, and not under duress.
Also, my mother-in-law firmly believes that every day on the table should be soup. No way without liquid, it is bad for health. Just the cult of soup in this family. I agree that it is a nourishing and tasty dish, in addition to the budget, but to eat it every day, I do not consider it necessary. But my mother-in-law forbade me to cook in her kitchen, saying that two mistresses in the kitchen – this is the way to quarrels and discord in the family. And I just think that cooking a pot of soup for three days, making sandwiches in addition, more convenient than cooking every day. That’s why all the family members are echoed that it’s healthy. And if my family used to cook everything fresh, it’s not like I’m transferring my “traditions” to my mother-in-law’s family.
I put up with it because it’s temporary. But I have a grudge against my husband for supporting my mother and not me. I warned him not to even mention any family traditions in our house.
