My husband was still physically and verbally abusive even after I had three children.

Although he had previously hit me once or twice, it became more frequent as the children came.
My personality was bold and confident. But with my husband, it was like a scared cat. He would get angry at me and come after me with all his might. To avoid pissing him off, I would walk on eggshells whenever I was near him. This put me on edge. I took my anger out on my children, not on my oppressor.

I was beaten so badly by him that the security guards at the gate had to come to my aid. That day, I decided to move out and stay with a relative. He refused to allow me to leave the children. I reported him to Alausa’s Lagos state family unit. They intervened.

Because I was a full-time mother, I did not have a job. My husband provided a comfortable lifestyle for me and my children. I’m highly qualified. So I resigned my certificate and started working full-time. I found a safe and decent apartment to rent and filed for divorce. It was a difficult, painful, frustrating, and depressing battle. My husband and I divorced. It was not an easy decision, but it was the right thing.

My children now live with me in a secure and safe home. My job, therapy, and living intentionally are helping me heal. I’m glad that I decided to leave. I now live my life on my terms and not the terms of someone who doesn’t value my life.

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My husband was still physically and verbally abusive even after I had three children.