Before the marriage I had my own car. It wasn’t new, but it was in great condition. For several years now I have been asking my husband to buy me a car, but he says that one is enough for the family.
Yes, we have a car, a new, expensive one, the loan we took out on it has just been paid off, but my husband drives it. For some reason, he doesn’t want to take public transportation to work, and I and my two children (ages 6 and 3) have to take the bus to the clinic, the store, and for walks in the park. Just to the park is where we have to go five stops by bus or shuttle. It’s very difficult. With two kids, one of whom is constantly in my arms, with a stroller and a bag of food, water, toys and all sorts of baby stuff. If I get out for a walk here, it’s almost half a day.
Now I regret that I sold my car and added that amount to the new one. But my husband spoke differently then, promising that we would pay this one off and buy me one. My parents even then warned me not to put money into a shared car, since they knew it wouldn’t be ours, but his. They were even willing to add to that amount, but specifically for my car. But I listened to my husband, not my father and mother! So now I got one. They also paid off the loan with the children’s money. And now the kids have to ride in a dirty bus so that their daddy can get to work in comfort.
We fight about it every day, but my husband won’t even give me a car for a few days. I’ve offered to take turns using it, but nothing has worked out. My husband said that while I’m on maternity leave, I don’t need the car, and when I go to work, he will give me a ride. I do not believe in his promises. I was also greatly offended by his words about children. My husband said that the children will soil the interior, because they can spill the juice, wipe their dirty hands on the expensive covers. But they are his children, not his neighbor’s!
My mother-in-law added to the problem. At first she asked her husband to take her to the clinic, then she got used to it, and now every time she has to be taken to the market or to pick her up from her sister’s. He does not refuse his mother, not like me. It is impossible to say anything, there will be a sea of resentment.
I would go to work, but my place is taken. I am looking for another one, but it does not work out. We are not in the capital, there are not many vacancies. I have decided that as soon as I earn money, I will put all my earnings aside to buy a car. Let my husband provide for the family or get my money back. I hardly ever use the car. Unless we go to the supermarket or the market together on weekends. But that doesn’t count.
