I noticed that with my friend all my conversations are about her. She likes to talk about herself, the same thing a hundred times, asking about herself, telling her own story. I accustomed her to this over the years of friendship, and now that I have begun to play differently, I see that she is not interested in what I have.
I began to take less interest in what was going on in her life, I began to tell her something about myself, and I see zero interest in the answer. She will answer something for the sake of ticks, she listens, but does not ask anything further (although the situation itself implies ensuing questions, any person would ask them). Then she won’t ask how the situation ended, even though she knew the question was unresolved, so I’m dealing with it. In correspondence I write something, waiting for a reaction to continue, but she either does not go, or comes in and answers dryly, the conversation does not go. But how passionately we discussed her pressing affairs, can not even describe, almost to the night, when we met in all the details. I am sensitive and attentive, I asked myself, because I knew that she had something urgent there.
On neutral topics, and about themselves, of course, says no problem, and as I turn on and show that I have something going on in my life, it’s like she gets angry, tries to ignore. And for so many years we are friends. And now what to do? Considering that the friendship she does not interrupt, loves to talk about everything except mine.
Adjust? What tactics would you adopt in this situation? I should note that I’m not an arrogant person who has now decided to talk about himself 24/7, and certainly nothing negative I tell, only changes, in the spirit of a promotion at work, some trip, a new young man on the horizon, etc. all that close friends tell each other first of all. She is an ambitious girl and said she did not like to be in someone else’s shadow, does not like it when someone avoids her in something, but only now I understand that it concerned me, and I thought that my friend did not concern.
Here was a correspondence today, I wrote – “by the way, about the promotion, I got a call from the boss,” a few more words I wrote, but she just read the ispovedi.com and left. No reply. Unpleasant feeling. I feel stupid. Does this sound familiar to anyone?
I have other acquaintances, but she’s the closest friend I see and talk to often, so it would be hard for me to distance myself.