My husband is always on business trips. His work involves being constantly present at construction sites all over the country. So you could say that I am married to my mother-in-law, not my husband.
After we got married, he asked me to live with his mother, since she was left alone after his father died. I didn’t really like the idea, but I was promised that I would feel free. That may have been the case at first, but my mother-in-law wasn’t long enough. After a couple of months she began to stick her nose where it was not necessary. I have nothing to hide, but her constant control pisses me off. My parents didn’t control me as much as this woman did when I was a kid.
My husband comes for a few days and then goes away again. I am very happy with the time we can spend together alone with him. But there is so little of it that I don’t have time to enjoy my man to the fullest. His mother these days is just becoming unbearable. It turns out that she misses her son, and everyone else can wait. And so it happens every time my husband comes back.
The last time my mother-in-law went over the edge. She wouldn’t leave her son’s side for a minute, trying to be with him all the time. We couldn’t even be alone together because she started pretending to feel bad and demanding to sit with her. I can understand that, but there are limits to patience. She got her husband to fall asleep next to her, and I felt sorry for waking him up. So there is a husband, and then there is no husband. The next morning he left again for another business trip. After giving me a kiss on the cheek and a hug, he left for a few months. I understand that this work feeds and supports our family, but it is not normal to live like this either. I miss his attention, warmth and tenderness. I love him very much, but I can’t live like this.
Our little boy goes to kindergarten. Every morning, when I take him to kindergarten, I meet children who go with their dads. I can’t pass by such pairs indifferently. It immediately makes me very sad that my husband just does not have time to be with his little boy. And this is the most important thing in his upbringing. A child needs to spend time with his father. But in our case, that’s not how it should be. In our case, even the grandmother, who lives with her grandson, shows no desire to go out with him. Our grandmother focuses only on herself and her own desires. For her, there are no people around her, she has only herself and only her needs. On top of that, she is also a gossip. If I am a little late for my questions, she arranges for me to be questioned and demands an explanation. My mother-in-law is absolutely convinced that I have to answer to her. If I start to cross her, she calls her husband and tells him all her insinuations.
In general, I do not live with a man, but with his mother. And she spoils my life in every way possible. Lately I’ve started to wonder more and more: do I even need such a family?
