My husband and I have been married for 5 years, before that we dated for 3 years and lived together for a year. Our relationship is good, there is mutual understanding, we joke together, we have become friends for so many years. We have two daughters, three years old and one year old. Everything is also all right financially, we live in a three-room apartment, and we recently bought a car. But one problem still exists – the absence of intimate relationship.
When we started our relationship, everything was pretty good, but then s#x life was on the decline. I used to try to take the initiative myself, but my husband had a headache, or was not in the mood, or tired. When I was pregnant, intimacy was completely absent, my husband could not do it, knowing that there was a baby in the belly.
I can’t say that I have a big appetite for s#x, rather the need is not high – once a week is enough, but after the birth of our second daughter we we do it once every 3 months. I stopped taking the initiative myself, I just got bored, and not really have the desire, dulled it somehow.
My appearance is nice, after the second birth I have not yet fully come to my original form. My husband works at home remotely, spends time with his family in the evening, rarely when he can meet with friends (once every few months), so having a mistress is ruled out. But the fact that we have such a intimate life can’t help but bother me. I understand that my husband is tired from work, often overworked, plus two small children, life is present, but not all couples are like this.
By the way, a few years ago my mother-in-law shared that she and her father-in-law had an early end to their s@x life (I did not discuss our problem with her, she shares a lot with me).
Men, what do you think the problem is? Does my husband have such a low level of activity on this issue or have I just stopped interested in him as a woman and that he will find another woman is a matter of time? I have never denied s#x, but the fact is that he just doesn’t need it.
