Before he met me, my husband lived with his parents. His salary was normal, so he had enough for himself. He changed his cell phone once in three years, he likes only branded things, and he also likes to sit in a restaurant with his friends. That is why I was not worried that he would not be able to support his family.
Before the wedding I set a condition – to live separately and save for my own apartment. Seeing him well-dressed, with a car and not stingy on gifts, I decided that he has savings. Plus mine, and you can make a down payment. But how wrong I was!
My husband gave my parents no utilities, sometimes bought food, and spent the rest on himself. He lived on everything ready-made, not going into any domestic problems or expenses. And then suddenly it turned out that he needed to buy a lot of things for his apartment. At the store, he whined that I was too much of a shopper. And I was just picking out household chemicals, plates, cups, and everything else for the kitchen. We also needed linens and towels and bath products. I won’t list everything, anyone who has moved into an apartment with only the owners’ furniture knows how much more needs to be spent on furnishings. I’m not even talking about the empty refrigerator. He was the one who used to open it at his mom’s and take everything ready-made, but here you have to buy the food yourself and spend the money.
The first quarrel arose over money. My husband resented that a lot of money went out and he didn’t have time to earn money. Then I suggested that we make a contribution and take the money only for shopping, and that everyone should spend his or her own money. I even allowed him to dispose of it himself, to bring the food he wanted. The money was enough for one week. And we don’t have a baby yet!
I think it was my mother-in-law’s fault. She’s raised a man who’s not fit for life. He’s not 18, he’s 29. What kind of a father would he be? Not to mention the fact that he refused to do the cleaning.
I’m sorry I got married in the first place. Now I support those who have decided to live civil marriage at least a couple of years. Only in everyday life can you get to know a person.
