My friend’s daughter got married and decided to live with her parents, even though she had her own studio apartment, which they bought. She was already pregnant at that time, as if it was right, she needed help. But her daughter and son-in-law immediately rented out their apartment, and as a result they have been living together for eight years, but with two children already. They are so comfortable, their mother will cook and clean, take care of the children, and the rent also pays for it.
A friend repeatedly complained to me how hard it was for her, her husband was not happy with such a dormitory. I was surprised, explicitly saying that she herself is to blame for spoiling her only daughter. Also added that because of this and her husband can run away where more comfortable.
But we are masters of judging others. I have a son and daughter (ages 22 and 26). My son works, but doesn’t give me any money at all. My daughter after college can’t find herself. Started accusing me that I couldn’t pay for her university like her classmates’ parents did and they are now getting good jobs. All the expenses for food, utilities and other household needs are on me. I am alone, my husband died 12 years ago. I could still get married, but my mother said that I should live for my children, not for someone else’s man. Although one does not prevent the other, it is too late to regret it now.
When I was giving advice to my friend, and let’s face it, I even judged her, I did not assume that I had two selfish people growing up. I raised my children to be lazy and ungrateful. I am afraid that they will not be able to provide for themselves, and they will sit by my side. My son is not at home much, after work he goes out with friends, and my daughter stays home almost all the time. Without money she is not interested in going out, and she does not want to earn money. She has become irritable and demanding, everyone owes her, she is unhappy and unlucky.
I can’t even imagine how to live further. The apartment is three-bedroom, if we sell and divide it among three people, it will not be possible to buy a house for all this money. My daughter suggests that I move to my parents in the village, she says that they are old and need help, and I am so selfish that I do not want to help them. This is said to me by a man who can’t even earn his own bread!
It’s very frustrating. I would go, but I need to work till my pension. There are no jobs in the village, there are only pensioners. But I understand what kind of old age awaits me with such children.
