I am 35 years old, my husband is 40. He is divorced and has a child from his first marriage. He was born sick (I don’t want to go into details). I realized that this is the reason for the divorce. But the husband claims otherwise, says his wife cheated on him. But it’s hard for me to imagine that with such problems a woman could find time to meet with a lover.
I found out about everything much later from his cousin. When I met him he said that he was divorced, had a son, and that he and his wife did not agree in character. But after learning about his child, I realized that he was just afraid of the responsibility and did not want to disadvantage himself. Later on, I was finally convinced of that.
I was not married, maybe that’s why I quickly accepted his proposal. My husband warned me almost immediately that he didn’t want children, that he had some kind of pathological fear of having a sick child. It’s just ridiculous. After all, his son is born this way for some unknown reason, maybe it was a mistake of doctors, so what should I do now, live without children because of this? But he does not want to hear anything. I was especially offended that he called me an old mother, saying that such mothers have a higher risk of giving birth to a sick child.
I understood that my husband wanted to live for himself, after seeing his little son, who, moreover, had to be taken to hospitals, to do various massages. And money for everything was catastrophically lacking. So he walked away from the responsibility, and now he wants me to give him comfort, in which the children have no place.
My parents insist on getting a divorce. But it’s too late to divorce and find another husband at this age, but I can’t agree to a childless marriage either. Advise me what to do?
