How do I tell my wife that I do not want her son from her first marriage to live with us? I understand that everyone will judge me at once, but the thing is that at the beginning of our relationship my wife said that her son would live with her parents. The boy was still in kindergarten at the time. I agreed that we would pick him up occasionally, and I planned to have children of my own.
This year he went to first grade, so my wife took him to live with us. My mother-in-law and wife decided that he should grow up in the family. But no one even asked me. Yes, I live in my wife’s apartment, I used to live with my parents, I wasn’t married. But I don’t understand why I have to take care of someone else’s child? He has his own father, let him take him in.
We have constant quarrels over the boy. My wife devotes a lot of time to him, and his homework takes up almost all of her free time. She also signed him up for an English course! When she stays late at work, she asks me to pick him up. I think my wife does this on purpose to bring us closer together, but I realize that I could never love him as my son. And then yesterday my wife told me that she doesn’t want children together yet because I have shown myself to be an unimportant father. I’m shocked! How can she compare her own son and her stepson?
I am sorry I spent so much time with this woman, hoping to create a happy family with her, even though she is divorced. In the meantime, I could have married a free girl and had children.