I very well understand the resentment and pain of the parents in the story where the daughter did not invite them to her wedding. And I sincerely feel sorry for that family. As they say, until you yourself have not been in this skin, it is very hard to understand and forgive all this ingratitude and betrayal of the closest and dearest person. You wouldn’t wish it on an enemy. Many people write that the parents themselves are to blame. And what is their fault? They are to blame for loving their little girl and wanting only good for her, to make her feel better.
A similar story happened to us. The heartache has just been tearing me apart for three years now. That is why I decided to share my pain with you. I get up at night and cry and don’t know how to go on living and how to swallow this bitter pill of life.
Our only daughter did the same thing to us, she didn’t invite us to the wedding, doesn’t come or call us, but informed us that she got married via email. She wrote that she loved us very much and hoped we could ever understand her and accept her choice. I’ll tell my story from the beginning.
Twenty-five years ago we moved to another country. It was very hard to get started. The foreign language was very hard, but we were able to get on our feet, get an education, get a job and build a big house for two families. At first my parents lived in the upper apartment (100m), and then when they were gone and after a new thorough renovation, our then 25-year-old daughter started to live there. We also dressed our only daughter up, so that she would be no different from the locals and would not feel disadvantaged. My husband and I had to work very hard for this (up to 60 hours a week) to pay for all the expenses with schooling, extra lessons in subjects and languages. In addition to my husband working nights and me working two jobs, we also took care of my dad, who was bedridden for 10 years after his illness.
My daughter received a higher education and 3 years ago, after graduating from university she immediately got a high position of a government official. We rejoiced heartily over her successes and thought it was finally time and celebration for us and our street. We even gave her 10% of the house as a gift. But that wasn’t the case. When my husband was asleep after his night shift and I was at work, my daughter packed up most of her things and moved out of the upstairs apartment we had built for her, to a friend of hers. She left us a letter saying that people like us will soon be extinct like dinosaurs and like her friend says, we should live now and only for ourselves and not pay attention to others.
Her friend we have seen only 4 times, a very unpleasant young man who tried in only 6 months of knowing us and even tried to sue us. He sued us and accused us of calling him names. All he has on his mind is lies, self-interest and money.
We love our now grown and married daughter very much. But we never expected her to leave us and answer us like this for our kindness, because we have always tried to set only a good example for her. We are very worried about her and her future, but where do we get the strength to go on living?
