I am a single mother, the child’s father does not help and has never helped, I do not even know where he lives now. I don’t expect and don’t want any help from him, we had a bad breakup. He is an inadequate and cruel man, at whose hands I suffered a lot. My mother died, so I have only my grandmother among my relatives.
Three years ago there was a situation where I had nowhere to live. I decided to go to New York to work, I didn’t want to take my child to the unknown. I talked to my grandmother, who didn’t mind helping and looking after my son. All this time I was in touch, I sent money, not much, but how much I could, I came about once every 2 months. My son loves me and is always waiting.
Now my situation is better, I am back in my town, I am not planning to “look for myself” and go to the capital. I found a job here, a young man appeared, we now live in his apartment. If anyone is interested, I don’t abuse alcoholic beverages.
I think it’s time to reunite with my son. My common-law husband is not against it, he also believes that the child should live with his mother. We are in a serious relationship, we will probably plan to have a child together. But my grandmother is against it. I understand, she is used to living with my son, he saves her from loneliness. She wants me to give up my attempts to start a family, and live with her and my son. She says she needs to make sure I’m a good mother, and she doesn’t want to let her child live with a “stranger.”
I am not deprived or restricted in my parental rights, that is, I can come and just take my child. But I don’t want to spoil relations with my grandmother and aggravate the conflict, after all I am grateful for her help. Besides, my son is very used to her, and I don’t want to destroy his world overnight.
What is the best way to handle my situation? The option she offers (to leave her husband and live with her and her son in her apartment), I do not consider. What is the best way to do, I just do not know.
