Someone Else’s Flat? Then Pay the Rent! A Mother’s Dilemma as Wedding Plans Are in Jeopardy Over a New Home Gift, Family Arguments, and a Stubborn Future Son-in-Law Who Refuses to Invest in the Property Not Registered in His Name – Should He Help Renovate or Is He Right to Refuse?

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You wouldnt believe the drama were having right now I honestly dont know if my daughters wedding will even go ahead. Honestly, everyones fallen out, tempers are flaring, and her fiancé is just losing the plot. The weddings two weeks off and things are just getting unbearable. I really feel for my daughter.

Youre probably wondering what all the fuss is about, right? Well, you wont believe it its all over a flat. We wanted to do something lovely for them, so we scraped together our entire savings and bought a flat as a wedding present. We even sold our little cottage by the lake and the garage just to be able to afford it. We registered the property in my daughters name. But honestly, since theyre getting married, who cares whose name is on it?

Thats what my husband and I thought anyway. But heres the catch the flat is a complete shell. It needs a full renovation and is totally unfurnished, but weve got nothing left in the bank. So my husband suggested to the future son-in-law that wed all pull together and get the place done up as soon as we can, so the young couple can move in. But the fiancé? He absolutely refuses to help with the renovation!

Get this he says he doesnt want to spend a penny on a place that doesnt belong to him. He told us, You sort out the renovation, Ill maybe chip in for some little bits, but Im not putting much money in. Hed rather save up for a flat of his own, so hes not left high and dry one day.

To be honest, the flat isnt remotely liveable at the moment. Its just bare walls it needs new plumbing, wiring, floors and the windows are ancient. Really, it needs a total overhaul. Even I, whos not particularly fussy, wouldnt want to live there as it is. And I cant see how youd expect two young people to start their life in such a dump. Its not right, and honestly I find it embarrassing. Her fiancé works for a big company and gets a good salary, but he just doesnt want to part with any more cash.

So I told him, if he thinks hes living in someone elses place, he should pay rent like a tenant. He actually smirked and agreed, can you believe it?

And my daughter? Shes in pieces constantly upset and in tears. She loves him to bits but theres no way we can put his name on the flat as well. Now shes saying she doesnt care about the flat or the renovation anymore. But I dont like how hes refusing to put anything into their family home, not even a little. What does that say about the future? They arent even married yet, and already its all discussions about divorce and splitting assets!

What do you think? Should her fiancé put some money into the place if he plans to live there, start a family, and settle down? Does it really matter whose names on the deeds? Or do you think hes got a point? If you were in his shoes, what would you do?

“Who Do You Think You Are to Tell Me What to Do!” — Mrs. Zoe Peterson Threw a Rag Right in Her Daughter-in-Law’s Face. “You Live in My House and Eat My Food!” Tamara Wiped Her Face and Clenched Her Fists. Three Months Married, and Every Day Feels Like a Battlefield. “I Cook, I Clean, I Do the Laundry! What More Do You Want?” “What I Want Is for You to Keep That Mouth Shut! Stray! Turned Up Here with Someone Else’s Child!” Little Ellie Peered Fearfully Out from Behind the Door. Just Four Years Old and Already Knows—Grandma’s Mean. “Mum, That’s Enough!” — Stephen Came in from the Yard, Dirty After Work. “What Now?” “She’s Rude to Me! I Told Her the Soup’s Too Salty, and She Answers Back!” “The Soup’s Fine,” Tamara Said Wearily. “You’re Just Picking on Me.” “There! You Hear That?” Zoe Wagged Her Finger in Tamara’s Face. “Says I’m Picking on Her! In My Own Home!” Stephen Moved to His Wife and Put an Arm Around Her. “Mum, Stop. Tamara’s Worked Hard All Day, and You Just Nag.” “Oh, So Now You’re Against Your Own Mother! I Raised You, Fed You, and This Is What I Get!” The Old Woman Stormed Out, Slamming the Door. Silence Fell in the Kitchen. “I’m Sorry,” Stephen Stroked Tamara’s Hair. “She’s Gotten Impossible as She’s Aged.” “Stephen, Maybe We Should Rent Somewhere? Even Just a Single Room?” “With What Money? I’m a Tractor Driver, Not a CEO. Barely Enough to Eat as It Is.” Tamara Snuggled Into Her Husband. He Was Good, Kind, Hardworking. But His Mother—She Was a Real Nightmare. They’d Met at a Village Fair. Tamara Sold Her Knitted Goods, Stephen Was Buying Socks. They Got Talking. He Said Right Away He Didn’t Mind She Had a Child—He Loved Kids. Their Wedding Was Modest. From Day One, Mrs. Zoe Peterson Disliked Her Daughter-in-Law. Tamara Was Young, Beautiful, With a University Degree in Accounting, While Her Son Was an Ordinary Tractor Driver. “Mum, Come for Supper,” Little Ellie Tugged at Her Mother’s Skirt. “Just a Minute, Sweetheart.” At Dinner, Mrs. Peterson Pushed Her Plate Away with a Flourish. “I Can’t Eat This. It’s Fit for Pigs the Way You Cook.” “Mum!” Stephen Pounded the Table with His Fist. “Stop It!” “What? I’m Just Being Honest! Look at Sylvia—What a Homemaker! But This One!” Sylvia, Mrs. Peterson’s Daughter, Lived in the City and Only Visited Once a Year. The House Was in Her Name, Though She Hardly Lived There. “If You Don’t Like My Cooking, You Can Cook for Yourself,” Tamara Said Calmly. “Oh, You!” The Mother-in-Law Jumped Up. “I’ll—” “That’s Enough!” Stephen Stood Between the Two Women. “Mum, Calm Down or We’re Leaving. Right Now.” “Where to? Out on the Street? The House Isn’t Yours!” It Was True. The House Belonged to Sylvia. They Were Allowed to Stay Out of Pity. *** A Precious Burden Tamara Couldn’t Sleep That Night. Stephen Held Her Close and Whispered: “Hold On, Love. I’ll Buy a Tractor. Start a Business. We’ll Save Up for Our Own Home.” “Stephen, That’s So Expensive…” “I’ll Find an Old One and Fix It Up. I Know How. Just Keep Believing in Me.” In the Morning, Tamara Woke Up Feeling Sick. She Rushed to the Bathroom. Could It Be? The Test Showed Two Lines. “Stephen!” She Burst Into the Room. “Look!” He Rubbed His Eyes Sleepily, Looked at the Test, and Suddenly Jumped Up, Spinning Her Around. “Tamara! Darling! We’re Having a Baby!” “Shhh! Your Mother Will Hear!” But It Was Too Late. Mrs. Peterson Stood in the Doorway. “What’s All the Noise?” “Mum, We’re Having a Baby!” Stephen Beamed. The Mother-in-Law Curled Her Lip. “And Where Will You All Live? It’s Crowded Enough With You Here. If Sylvia Returns, You’ll Be Out on Your Ear.” “We Won’t Be Thrown Out!” Stephen Frowned. “This Is My Home Too!” “It’s Sylvia’s House, Remember? I Signed It Over To Her. You’re Just Lodgers.” The Joy Evaporated. Tamara Slumped onto the Bed. A Month Later, Tragedy Struck. Tamara Was Lifting a Heavy Bucket (No Running Water in the House). Sudden Pain, Bloodstains on Her Trousers… “Stephen!” She Cried. A Miscarriage. The Doctor Said It Was Overexertion, Stress. She Needed Rest. But How Do You Rest Living With a Mother-in-Law Like That? Tamara Lay in the Hospital, Staring At The Ceiling. She Couldn’t Take Any More. She Wouldn’t. “I’m Leaving Him,” She Told Her Friend Over The Phone. “I Can’t Go On.” “Tamara, What About Stephen? He’s Good.” “He Is. But His Mother… She’ll Be The Death Of Me.” Stephen Rushed To Her After Work, Covered In Dirt And Exhaustion, A Bunch Of Daisies In Hand. “Tamara, My Love, I’m So Sorry. It’s All My Fault. I Didn’t Take Care Of You.” “Stephen, I Just Can’t Live There Any More.” “I Know. I’ll Take Out a Loan. We’ll Rent a Flat.” “They Won’t Lend To You. Your Wage Is Too Low.” “They Will. I’ve Found a Second Job. Night Shift At The Farm. By Day On The Tractor, By Night Milking Cows.” “Stephen, You’ll Collapse!” “I Won’t. I’d Move Mountains For You.” Tamara Was Discharged a Week Later. At Home, Mrs. Peterson Met Her At The Door: “Well, Didn’t Keep It, Did You? I Knew It—Too Feeble.” Tamara Walked Past In Silence. Her Mother-in-Law Wasn’t Worth Her Tears. Stephen Worked Like a Man Possessed. Tractor By Day, Farm By Night. He Slept Three Hours A Night. “I’ll Take a Job Too,” Tamara Said. “There’s an Opening For An Accountant.” “The Pay’s Pennies.” “Pennies Add Up.” So She Took The Job. Mornings, She Took Ellie To Nursery. Then Off To The Office. Evenings, Collected Her Daughter, Cooked, Did Laundry. Mrs. Peterson’s Nagging Continued, But Tamara Learned To Tune Her Out. *** Their Own Corner and a New Life Stephen Continued Saving For The Tractor. He Found An Old, Broken-Down One For Next To Nothing. “Take The Loan,” Tamara Said. “Fix It, We’ll Earn Our Own Money.” “What If It Doesn’t Work?” “It Will. You’re Brilliant With Your Hands.” The Loan Came Through. They Bought The Tractor. It Sat In The Yard Like a Heap of Junk. “Well That’s Just Grand!” Mrs. Peterson Laughed. “Junkyard’s Where That Belongs!” Stephen Worked On The Engine In Silence. Night After Night, After The Farm, Only the Flashlight for Company. Tamara Helped—Handing Tools, Holding Parts. “Go Rest. You’re Exhausted.” “We Started This Together, We’ll Finish Together.” A Month Went By. Then Two. The Neighbours Laughed—Fool Of A Tractor Driver, Buying a Heap of Scrap. But One Morning, The Engine Roared To Life. Stephen Sat At The Wheel, Not Quite Believing Their Luck. “Tamara! It’s Running! It Works!” She Rushed Out, Throwing Her Arms Around Him. “I Knew You Could Do It! I Always Believed In You!” The First Job—Ploughing Mr. Smith’s Vegetable Patch. Second, Delivering Firewood. Third and Fourth—The Money Started Coming In. Then, Tamara Once More Felt Sick In The Mornings. “Stephen, I’m Pregnant Again.” “This Time, You Don’t Lift a Thing, Do You Hear? I’ll Do It All!” He Wrapped Her In Cotton Wool. No Heavy Lifting. Mrs. Peterson Grumbled: “Delicate, Aren’t We! I Had Three Kids and Never Complained! And Her?” But Stephen Was Adamant. No More Overdoing It. In The Seventh Month, Sylvia Arrived with Her Husband and Big Plans. “Mum, We’re Selling The House. Got a Good Offer. You’re Moving In With Us.” “And Them?” Mrs. Peterson Nodded To Stephen and Tamara. “Well, What About Them? They’ll Have To Find Somewhere Else.” “Sylvia, I Was Born Here, This Is My Home!” Stephen Protested. “So? It’s My House. Did You Forget?” “When Do We Have To Leave?” Tamara Asked Calmly. “A Month.” Stephen Boiled With Rage. Tamara Rested A Hand On His Shoulder—Quiet, Don’t Argue. That Evening, They Sat Together In Silence. “What Are We Going To Do? The Baby’s Due Soon.” “We’ll Find Somewhere. As Long As We’re Together, That’s What Matters.” Stephen Worked Like A Madman. The Tractor Roared From Dawn To Dusk. In A Week, He Made As Much Money As Usually Took A Whole Month. Then Mr. Michaels, A Farmer From The Next Village, Rang. “Stephen, Selling My Cottage. It’s Old, But Solid. Cheap, Too. Want To Take A Look?” They Went That Very Day. The Cottage Was Indeed Old, But Sturdy—Three Rooms, A Range, A Shed. “How Much?” Mr. Michaels Named His Price. They Had Enough For Half. “How About Instalments?” Stephen Suggested. “Half Now, The Rest In Six Months.” “All Right. You’re A Reliable Lad.” They Came Home Elated. Mrs. Peterson Met Them At The Door: “Where Have You Two Been? Sylvia’s Brought The Papers!” “That’s Fine,” Tamara Said Calmly. “We’re Moving Out.” “Where To? The Pavement?” “To Our Own Place. We Bought It.” The Mother-In-Law Froze. Didn’t Expect That. “Lying! Where’d You Get The Money?” “We Earned It,” Stephen Hugged His Wife. “While You Were Wagging Your Tongue, We Were Grafting.” They Moved Within Two Weeks. Not Many Possessions—What’s Yours In Someone Else’s House? Ellie Ran Round The Rooms, The Dog Barked. “Mum, Is This Really Our House?” “It Is, Darling. Genuinely Ours.” Mrs. Peterson Arrived The Next Day. She Stood On The Threshold. “Stephen, I’ve Thought It Over. Maybe You Could Take Me In? The City Air’s Stifling.” “No, Mum. You Made Your Choice. Live With Sylvia.” “But I’m Your Mother!” “A Mother Doesn’t Call Her Grandchild ‘Someone Else’s’. Goodbye.” He Closed The Door. Hard, But The Right Thing To Do. Matthew Was Born That March. A Strong, Healthy Boy. He Yelled Loudly and Made His Demands Known. “Just Like His Dad!” The Midwife Laughed. Stephen Cradled His Son, Afraid To Breathe. “Thank You, Tamara. For Everything.” “No, Thank You. For Not Giving Up On Us. For Believing.” They Settled Into Their New Home. Planted A Garden, Got Chickens. The Tractor Earned Its Keep. Evenings Were Spent On The Porch; Ellie Played With The Dog, Matthew Slept In His Cot. “You Know What?” Tamara Said One Sunset. “I’m Happy.” “Me Too.” “Remember How Bad Things Once Were? I Thought I Would Break.” “You Didn’t. You’re Strong.” “We’re Strong—Together.” The Sun Set Behind The Woods. The House Smelled Of Fresh Bread And Milk. A Real Home. Their Home. A Place Where No One Could Insult, Throw Them Out, Or Call Them Outsiders. A Place To Live, Love, And Raise Their Children. A Place To Be Happy. *** Dear Readers, Every Family Faces Their Own Trials, And Overcoming Them Isn’t Always Easy. Tamara and Stephen’s Story Is Like a Mirror—We See Both Our Struggles And The Strength That Helps Us Rise Above. So Life Goes On: From Hardship To Joy, Then On Again—Until Fate Smiles. What Do You Think—Should Stephen Have Broken Away From His Mother Sooner? Or Was He Right To Persevere for So Long? And What Does ‘Home’ Mean To You—Just Bricks And Mortar, Or The Warmth Of Family? Share Your Thoughts—Life Is A School, And Every Lesson Matters!