My husband has a nephew, Vova (he got married, but nobody called us to the wedding). But that’s not the point. In the summer, when we went to the wake of this nephew’s grandfather, driving up to the cafe, I saw Vova’s wife wave at us, since my husband was driving, I waved back. But she didn’t even get out of the car, she came out later and she didn’t come up to us. I, of course, immediately thought she was waving to my husband and not me.
And here’s the situation at the moment: Vova’s wife is pregnant, and Vova asked my husband to help him in something and so he found out that she was pregnant, and I only find out about it now (when she is about to give birth). And they are hiding the pregnancy from all relatives, except parents. So my husband knew and didn’t even tell me. Or they asked not to tell me. I kind of don’t see what the big deal is here, but I think if my husband knows about it, then I’m going to find out, and my husband didn’t tell me. Is that what you do in a family? Even if let’s say they asked him to keep quiet, but even if he told me, I would keep quiet just the same!
I am offended by some kind of reticence, secrecy, and in general it is unpleasant that a man with whom I have lived half my life, behaves like that. I mean, maybe my nephew’s wife has her eye on my husband? In general, it feels like something is said about me behind my back, and my husband agrees and does not get up in defense. Moreover, I have not done anything wrong for them to treat me that way.
And yesterday Vova called and asked my husband to help put the crib together. My husband is going over there today, and I am so worried, I don’t even know if I should ask? All I hear from him lately is irritation, he can raise his tone. You know, with people he is different, so kind and reliable, but with me, some kind of annoyed, that I do not ask, begins to raise the tone, and I am to tears offended. The reason does not say, and I am to blame. So I think if I ask him anything, I’m afraid he’ll raise his tone in an irritated manner.
And by the way, when Vova called him, I asked him who it was, and he told me, “the kid, just so. Even here hid, did not say he would go to help with the crib. That’s why I’m worried, but a woman’s gut is not deceived?
Advice, please, what to do?
