My daughter is 33 years old, married, everything is good, she has a husband, a job, a place to live. But she has no children. I never asked her about it, but then I visited my relatives, and my niece gave birth there, and my daughter wouldn’t leave the baby alone. And then I told her that maybe it was time to have a baby of her own, too. And she said: “Mom, how can I go on maternity leave? Seryozha won’t be able to feed us all by himself.
It turns out that Yana also thinks about having a baby, and, moreover, for a long time already, literally from the marriage, and this is seven years, not a short period. And her husband is not against the baby, he often talks about how he and his son will play soccer and go fishing. In principle, he would be glad to have a daughter.
I like my son-in-law, he is two years older than my daughter, kind, caring, dependable, unpretentious in everyday life. He is lazy, really, you can not say, will not do, but who is perfect? They live well, do not quarrel, the money, again, all that he earns, Sergey brings home and gives to his wife.
The only trouble is that he brings very little. Lately his salary is a little over thirty thousand rubles, and it’s still good that there is at least that much. Before that, my son-in-law had been out of work for months. According to his daughter, he was actively looking for a job, sending out CVs, writing cover letters, running around for interviews. But for some reason he had no luck with work, and thirty-two thousand per month in Moscow, for a young man, is almost poverty. Especially since he used to get paid less. He always had problems: he would be cheated, or underpaid, or the company would go bankrupt as soon as his son-in-law came to work there. And it is unclear why this happens.
My daughter gets seventy thousand rubles, she works steadily, without interruptions, for many years in the same company. That is why they have enough for two people. They pay the rent for the apartment, which, by the way, belongs to me, they get dressed, change gadgets, and even manage to fly somewhere in our country on a budget from time to time.
If my daughter goes on maternity leave, they will have a hard time, even with maternity benefits. After all, there is not much to count on even this job with my son-in-law for a long time.
Daughter here read the stories on the Internet, like, you know, what to do if the husband does not provide. Everywhere they write that you have to become a weak woman, stop earning money, and live on what your husband brings. Yana even did an experiment three years ago, her husband was also out of work. She said that her salary was cut drastically, sugar, eggs and milk were unaffordable now, only bread and porridge. So we sat on porridge until Jana got tired of it herself.
The daughter wants a child very much, she said. And there is nowhere to put it off. But she is afraid to dare to experiment a second time. After all, now to stop everything in a couple of months, as three years ago, will be impossible. And look for a rich husband is too late. It’s a shame that her friends, much worse than her, but married well.
My friends say that all these excuses, if she wanted a baby, she would have had one long time ago. You can make money on the Internet or let your husband stay on maternity leave, and many people save money in advance “for maternity leave”. I would also help, but apparently they are used to living without children, for themselves.
