I recently met a guy. I am 27 and he is 31. We met after a long time, because I promised to make him a cake for his last birthday. We didn’t see each other because he was away for work. We were in touch the whole time he was gone. I immediately developed a liking for him.
We met up some time later, had lunch, and celebrated his birthday. He was always wondering if I cooked so well, if I baked the cake myself. I answered that I did it all by myself. He was surprised, and said it was really great that I could cook so well, because now a lot of girls can’t or don’t want to cook. I don’t know where he meets them, but all my girlfriends are good cooks.
During dinner, he started asking me how long I had been single. I told him that since May. He said he and I met at the end of June, and added that I switched quickly from one to the other. Some time before he left, I told him that just sex without a relationship wasn’t my thing. I don’t know how to turn off my feelings and just sleep for pleasure. We were the ones who were just talking at the time, he wasn’t hinting at anything. We’ve slept in the same bed on previous occasions, but he didn’t molest and we were even kind of far away from each other.
This time it turned out that he lay right very close to me, then said he was cold at my place, which was true. He offered to lie next to me, but I was too shy. He said I seemed even more scared than he was. After a while I started saying it was cold, too. Then he suggested lying down in my arms again. But supposedly when a boy and a girl lie down together and cuddle, there could be something else. But we just laid there and talked.
After a while he says that he doesn’t really understand what’s going on between us. He says that he really likes our friendship and that sex is great, but sometimes sex ruins everything and he doesn’t want to lose me. But he remembered that I get attached to people after sex, and he doesn’t really want that either. He doesn’t get attached. Said his past relationships were very toxic and that’s why he doesn’t really want a serious relationship.
Then he asked me why I don’t sleep. I tell him I can’t sleep. He says, “because no one has slept around for a while?” I didn’t say anything back. Then we fell asleep. I woke up and started getting ready for work. We ate breakfast and went to different places. We hugged each other goodbye, a few minutes later I got a message from him: “Thank you for such care and attention, you make me happier. It feels so good that words can not tell.
I don’t know what to do. Continue to be friends and have more sympathy or still hook up and possibly lose him? I don’t know what to do.
