Our daughter is an irresponsible selfish person. She is pregnant with her third child. Our granddaughters are 16 and 14 years old, and they said they would leave home if the family had another child.
The daughter divorced her first husband because he cheated on her. Or rather, he left her for his mistress. Now she is in her second marriage and her husband does not want to take care of the baby either, he is quite happy with the adult children, he is used to them and treats them as his own. I am not surprised that they are fighting every day now. It turned out that her son-in-law had warned her before she got married that she didn’t want children, her maternal instinct had already been realized, and he was quite happy with her children.
I tried to explain to her that a third child is a luxury. Here the two existing ones would have to be raised, all the more so if they were girls and at that age. They need both time and education. And how much it costs to clothe and educate them! And her husband threatened to leave if she decided to give birth. I warned her that I will not help with the baby, let him not rely on me, I almost raised granddaughters, and now I want to live for myself. I want peace, quiet time at the cottage. But my daughter does not want to listen to anyone and does not agree to terminate the pregnancy. She says she has always dreamed of having a big family, and her husband will get used to it and love the baby when he sees and takes it in his arms. I don’t know who she went to be so naive. Even her first husband’s cheating and divorce didn’t teach her anything.
You say, what do I care about my adult daughter’s decision? But I see that the family is falling apart, and I would not be surprised if my daughter is alone again, but with three children in her arms. Willy-nilly I will have to help her, and not only as a babysitter, but also with money. I just feel sorry for my granddaughters.
