My husband and I had been married for six years, and before that we dated for four more years. When we got married we started living in his mom’s apartment.
At that time we were earning the same, and he also had his own business. We fought all the time over money, eventually he said that we would have a separate budget. And I accepted it, now I regret it, of course. So we lived like that for 6 years, we shared everything, bought food, necessary things for the house, a trip to the sea, I asked to make repairs in one of the rooms to make a bedroom, and also invested half the necessary funds and half paid for the refrigerator, washing machine, dishwasher, and stove. And all this with the fact that it’s not even my apartment.
I know it was my own fault. But I loved him very much, and accepted that he didn’t want to provide for the family and at least buy groceries. He also raised his hands on me, and more than once, insulted me. I went to my mother several times, for 1-2 days, and he always brought me back, came to get me and asked for forgiveness, and I quickly forgave him. He behaved normally for a while, but then everything became like before, indifference again, he cared only about himself, again we pay everything in half, even when he started earning more than me, he still demanded that I pay for everything.
Recently he hit me again. I packed my things and left. For three months I lived apart from him. At first he called once a week asking, “When are you coming home?” Then he realized I wasn’t going to, and started calling me every day, begging me to come back, swearing his love, on his knees, saying he was stupid, but now he understood everything. He promises that he will take care of all the expenses, he will buy groceries, we will do everything at home together, he even returned me the money I spent on repairs and appliances. He also sends me flowers and presents every other day, says that he has changed, started going to a psychologist, suggests that the two of us should go together, he wants to keep the family together.
I do not want to destroy our family, I kind of want to go back, but I do not believe that people can change so. Do you think he really understood something and will change?
I should add that we are 30 years old, no children.
