I gave birth to you and brought you up, now you have to take care of yourself, because I have to provide for you only until you are eighteen, and after that you do what you want.
My spouse’s mother paid almost no attention to him and spent all her time with her youngest daughter, who had just come into the world when Mark was in ninth grade. After the wedding we wanted to move in with my mother-in-law, because she does not have such a small apartment and moreover, she was once still able to buy two apartments. We thought that after the wedding she would at least give us one for a while, but no, she wouldn’t even let us in for a month. My mother-in-law wasn’t interested in my grandchildren, who I had after five years of marriage and had probably only seen them a couple of times.
One day I went to the hospital with the oldest child and the youngest stayed at home and needed someone to look after him, but then my spouse’s mother again refused to help and told me that she didn’t care about other people’s children. When I had to sit with my daughter in the hospital for two more weeks because of her illness, my husband even quit, because he could not leave his three-year-old son at home himself. We had no money and Mark’s mother refused to help us. We had to cope with all the difficulties by ourselves and no one from my husband’s family was interested in us, they just did not care how we were doing.
My sister-in-law just that year she went to university and as a gift to her mother-in-law decided to rewrite two apartments, which were in very good areas of town, so she even had money thanks to the fact that she was given a lot of money for the second apartment. Her spouse’s sister had a child and his mother started taking care of him constantly, but she didn’t even think about two more grandchildren from her son. As a result, her mother-in-law was constantly taking care of the grandson her daughter gave birth to, and soon she even had to become guardian of the child, because Mark’s sister had gone to live abroad with her husband, leaving her son behind.
At that moment she remembered us and said she really wanted to see us, because now it is very hard for her to bring up her grandson, who was just abandoned by her daughter. As a result, we moved into the same apartment, but we had to huddle in only one of the rooms, because my mother-in-law considered it necessary for her favorite grandson to have one full and she, as an elderly person, also needed personal space. My children still received no attention from my mother-in-law. And when my child got chicken pox, my spouse’s mother threw all my things out of the apartment and told me to go anywhere with my child, but not to return to her apartment, because my beloved grandson could get infected because of me.
We rented our apartment at the time and I asked the tenants to move out in the next couple of weeks, but I myself had to urgently look for a place to rent. Especially since it was very cold outside, but my spouse had no reaction to that and threw my other child out the door with his things.
We lived in a rented apartment for a while, and then returned to our own, but my spouse did not want to go back and even filed for divorce. When my former mother-in-law’s beloved grandson grew up, it turned out that Mark got nothing from the inheritance, so he left his mother all alone. I had already been told about all this by a neighbor who lived across the street from my ex-mother-in-law’s house.
I thought I would never see my mother-in-law again, but still, my children insisted that we visit her at least after we had grown up. When we went to her house, it stank and it was clear that my mother-in-law hadn’t done anything around the house, and the kids immediately jumped at the chance to clean, because they couldn’t just leave their grandmother alone.
Are you going to inherit something from me now, too? I won’t let that happen, because you haven’t done anything for me! If you think that because of your children I will sign the apartment over to you, you can not even dream! – said with suspicion the mother of her ex-husband.
If you want someone to take care of you now so you don’t die here alone, just shut your mouth and be thankful that my children are helping you now.
My kids cleaned my grandmother’s apartment all day and kept asking her how she was doing. They probably don’t even remember how she treated them as children, so they still love her. Maybe we should open their eyes and refresh their memory. It doesn’t seem fair.