You are a mistake of youth.
My mother gave birth to me when she was just sixteen. My father was the same age. The messy details of the scandal aren’t worth rehashing, but after I was born, my parents separated almost immediately. Once my mum realised my father wanted nothing to do with her or me, she stopped caring about me altogether. My grandparents, her mum and dad, took me in and raised me as their own.
When she turned eighteen, Mum left our small town with a new boyfriend and moved to Birmingham. She never called, never wrote. My grandparents didnt try to meet her. There was disappointment, confusion, and pain how could she abandon her child? The feeling that they’d raised someone capable of this haunted them.
They brought me up as their own son. To this day, I consider my grandparents my real parents and Im endlessly grateful for my childhood, education, and everything they gave me.
When I turned eighteen, my cousin Annie was getting married. The whole family attended the wedding, and my biological mother was there too. By then, shed married three times and had another daughter.
Her eldest was ten, the youngest just a year and a half. I felt a strange excitement, wanting to meet my mother and sisters at last, hoping I could ask her, Mum, why did you leave me?
Despite how wonderful my grandparents were, there was always a part of me that missed my mother. I even held onto the only photograph I had of herGrandad had burned the rest. At the wedding, I listened as Mum chatted away with an aunt, boasting about her beautiful daughters.
And what about me, Mum? I asked.
You? Youre just a mistake I made when I was young. Your father was rightI should have ended the pregnancy, she replied, turning away casually.
Seven years later, I was living comfortably with my wife and son in a cosy two-bedroom flat, thanks to my grandparents and my in-laws. One evening, my mobile rang with an unfamiliar number.
Hello, its your mum. Your uncle gave me your number. Listen, I know you live near the university where your sisters started. Can she stay with you for a bit? Shes family after all. She hates the halls, renting is too expensive, my husbands left me, Im struggling with a student, a schoolgirl, and a toddler, she said.
Youve got the wrong number, I replied and hung up.
I walked over to my little boy, scooped him into my arms, and said, Lets get ready, were going to see Grandma and Grandad today.
And at the weekend, can we all go to the countryside together? my son asked.
Absolutely, you never break family traditions!
Some relatives disparaged me for refusing my sisters plea for help. They said I should have helped. But I believe my loyalty belongs to Grandma and Grandad, not to a stranger who calls herself my mother and sees me as a mistake.
If Ive learned anything, its this: family isnt just about blood. Its about the ones who choose you, cherish you, and stand by you no matter what.











