My husband returned home from work yesterday, behaving rather oddly.
I asked him about the upcoming wedding, and he immediately glanced down. He said he would be going to the wedding alone.
“But what about me?” I asked, surprised.
He explained, “Darling, I only received my basic wages this January. So I think Ill attend the wedding by myself. You look after our little one. Nothing bad will happen. Ill be gone for three days; I need to stay at a hotel, have something to eat, and of course, buy a present for the bride and groom.”
We were still a young family then, living in a modest one-bedroom flat generously given to us by my mother-in-law. I was on maternity leave, and our daughter was almost two. I didnt hurry back to work as I had nobody to leave her with. My in-laws had provided the flat, so, as the saying goes, I must thank them for that.
My mother kept her own affairs and worked extra hours. She told me clearly that if I needed urgent help with childcaresay, if I returned to workshe would come. But to buy myself a new dress or colour my hair? Not a chance. For that, she wouldnt step in to babysit.
I know my mothers character all too well. She travels abroad every year and spends her weekends pampering herself at beauty salons and massage parlours.
Our family had never faced any emergencies. When my husband was home, I could look after my own matters. Truth be told, he wasnt particularly thrilled about it, often letting me out into town only seldom and for short spells.
Then came the wedding invitation.
My husbands younger brother decided to get married, and we needed to travel to another city for three days. I went to my mother to ask if shed stay with her granddaughter. After all, weddings are important affairsjust three daysand our daughter is a calm child, almost never fussing.
Mother refused at first but later sighed and took three days off work. I was thrilled. Id been home for two years with our child, and at the very least, at the wedding, Id have a little rest
But my hopes crumbled when my husband announced his plan.
For me, it was to be a special event. Id nursed our daughter for a year without leaving the house. Then I found that nobody wanted to look after her. Meanwhile, my husband attended company events and work trips frequently.
Admittedly, I didnt know his brother particularly well; Id only seen his fiancée in a photograph.
I was deeply upset, but my husband wouldnt see my perspective. He thought everything was fine.
“My dear,” he said, “firstly, your mother isnt too keen on taking our daughter to hers. Let her have a rest these few days and you stay here. No need to make anyone uncomfortable. If she doesnt want to look after her, thats her choice. Besides, you hardly know my family. Whats the point of the trip for you? Your place is here, caring for our child. Ill go and come back.”
So it looked like nobody would go. Why should my husband decide what I ought to do?
Who do you think is right in this situation?
Personally, I believe both the girls mother and her husband are rather inconsiderate. Of course, a grandmother isnt obliged to care for her granddaughter, but she could think of her daughter, not just herself.
And the husband hardly understands his wife. Shes devoted so much of herself to their daughtershe too deserves a respite.
If he truly loves her, he should realise this
The girl in this story is left feeling very sad. Shes completely dependent on her husband and has nobody to help her.
It would be interesting to hear what others think. I hope she finds a way to solve the situation and shares her feelings with her husband.
Ladies, lets remember we live in a free country! You can speak your mind; nothing terrible will happen. Its not as if the husband will demand a divorce simply because his wife holds her ground. And even so, that would reveal his feelings werent genuine. We must respect one another and bring joy wherever we can.
