Stay with the child. Ill attend my brothers wedding on my own.
My husband came home from work yesterday, and there was something odd about him.
I asked him about the wedding, and straight away, he lowered his gaze. He said hed be going to the wedding by himself.
But what about me? I was stunned.
Then my husband told me, Love, I barely got paid this January. So Ill probably have to go to the wedding alone. You take care of our little one. Nothing bad will happen. Ill just be away for three days need to stay at a hotel, have some meals. And of course, I need to buy a gift for the bride and groom.
Were a young family, living in a small one-bedroom flat. My mother-in-law gave us the place. Im on maternity leave, and my daughters almost two years old. I havent rushed back to work theres simply nobody to leave her with. My parents-in-law provided us with the flat, and for that well, theres only so much thanks one can give.
My own mother keeps herself busy and does extra shifts. She told me right away, if I have an urgent need for childcare when I go back to work, shell definitely help. But buying a new dress or colouring my hair absolutely out of the question. She wont babysit just so I can primp myself up.
I know my mothers temperament well. By the way, each year she travels abroad. She also spends every weekend at beauty salons and the spa.
Weve never had any real emergencies in our family. When my husbands home, I manage to get some errands done. Its true, though, that he doesnt exactly leap for joy at the idea he only lets me out now and then, and never for long.
Then came the wedding invitation.
My husbands younger brother decided to get married. It meant travelling to another city for three days. So off I went to ask my mother if she could stay with her granddaughter for that time. After all, a weddings a big occasion. Just three days, and my daughter is a quiet little soul. She doesnt fuss or cry.
Mum resisted for ages, but finally, with a sigh, she took three days off work. I was over the moon. After nearly two years stuck at home with a child, I thought I could at least enjoy myself at the wedding.
But all my hopes crumbled after my husbands announcement.
It was meant to be a special event for me. Id nursed my daughter for a year, hardly ever leaving the house. Nobody seemed willing to mind her. Meanwhile, my husband often attended work events and business trips.
Honestly, I dont even know his brother all that well. Id only ever seen his fiancée in a photo.
I was heartbroken. Yet my husband just couldnt see my point. He thought everything was perfectly normal.
Look, darling, your mum isnt exactly thrilled to take care of our daughter at her place. Let her have a few days rest, and you stay home too. No point making someone uncomfortable. If she doesnt want to, let her be. You dont really know my family, anyway. What would you gain from this trip? Your place is at home with our child. Ill go and be back soon.
So I decided nobody should go. Why should my husband be the one to decide what I do?
And who do you think is in the right, here?
Personally, I think the wifes mother and husband are being rather cheeky. Of course, a grandmother isnt obligated to babysit. But surely she could think of her daughter, not just herself.
And her husband doesnt really understand his wife. Shes devoted so much time to their daughter, and she truly deserves a break.
If he really loves his wife, he should realise that.
Its such a sad situation for this woman. Shes left completely dependent on her husband, with nobody else to turn to.
It would be interesting to hear what readers think. I hope this woman finds a way to solve things and shares her honest feelings with her husband.
Ladies, lets not forget, we live in a free country! You can speak your mind nothing dreadful will happen. Its not as if your husband will demand a divorce just because you lay down the law. And if he does, then the love wasnt real in the first place. We ought to respect one another and bring each other happiness.
