I can’t stand my mother-in-law. And I have my reasons for this. I have been on maternity leave for three years. We have a daughter growing up. My husband’s mother does not let me live in peace. Even though we live in different apartments. But she comes to see me almost every day. Recently, my mother-in-law came to play with her granddaughter. At that time, my daughter was sleeping for lunch. I also laid down next to her because I was tired and had a headache. When my mother-in-law saw this, she almost went crazy. You should have seen the look on her face. She was screaming in a voice that was not her own. How dare I lie in bed during the day. What about the housework? And then she said that with this lifestyle I would soon turn into an animal. She accused me of only eating and sleeping. What does she care how I spend my day?
– But all women on maternity leave start their own businesses, work hard to help their husbands… And you? Lying around in broad daylight! It’s a shame!” she said.
“My husband is currently the only breadwinner in the family. My mother-in-law told him that I could also bring money home. And the child does not interfere with this at all. She’s been working all her life, earning money, and without any male help.
– Nowadays, there are so many opportunities – you can bake, clean, or sell clothes. Who lies down in the middle of the day?
And my mother-in-law said all this in front of my husband.
Not everyone is good at baking or doing something else.
– Those women use any opportunity to make money. Just to support their husbands. They make toys, babysit other people’s children, take care of the elderly, work as cleaners. And nothing suits you! My son supports you, and what do you do? How can you live like this? Ungrateful!” the mother-in-law continued.
“My husband works at the computer, I can’t say that he gets so tired during the day. He has time to have lunch, make a joke, watch a video on the Internet. We live in a rented apartment. We pay rent, utilities, groceries, and at the end of the month we have nothing left. Sometimes we take money from a credit card.
– Some families are much worse off. You and I have a roof over our heads. I get a salary every month, and I bring every penny into the house,” my husband assured me.
“But I have nothing to be happy about. I can’t afford a new jacket, I’ve been wearing a worn-out one for three years. I have forgotten the last time I was in a beauty salon. We don’t have enough money for new things. And then there’s the baby. I’d better buy her some clothes. I would never have thought that I would find myself in such a life. But the worst thing is that my husband does not see any problems in our family. He has only one answer to my words: “If you don’t like something, look for a job.” I can guess whose words these are.
Our daughter is very energetic. You have to watch her all the time. My husband and mother-in-law do not appreciate my work. They are always in trouble. When am I supposed to work if I don’t even have time for myself? In my opinion, a man should provide for his family so that his wife and children do not need anything. In general, a man could find a better-paid job.
What do you think?
Should a man provide for his own family while a woman takes care of a child? If what he earns is only enough for the most basic necessities. I’m not talking about vacation, clothes. Of course, in the modern world, women are often much more successful than men. But then what is a man for? In my opinion, buying clothes cannot be called a whim.
My mother-in-law doesn’t let me live in peace. She says that instead of complaining about my husband, I should have found a job a long time ago. After all, he works hard and gets tired during the day.
I am so tired of them both. I thought about hiring a nanny, but we don’t have the money. My mother-in-law refuses to sit with her granddaughter. What do you think? Do I need to look for a job or is it my husband’s job to take care of our well-being?
