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“What Do You Mean You Won’t Take His Name?” – My Mother-in-Law Shouted in the Registry Office

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What do you mean youre not changing your surname? my mother-in-law yelled across the registry office.

Grace had zero interest in getting married, to be honest. But at age nineteen, after three years dating a lad from her class, she ended up pregnant. She figured she didnt have much of a choice she wanted her baby to have a dad around.

Sure, Tom was older than Grace, but maturity wasnt really his forte. A bit of a mummys boy, if were being honest. At least he didnt run off, and said hed do the right thing by marrying her and raising the kid. So, the wedding ball started rolling.

Grace wouldve been content with a quiet do, but of course the relatives got involved and insisted on a full-blown affair. She genuinely couldnt wrap her head around the idea of spending a small fortune on feeding cousins she barely liked, when that money could buy things a new baby actually needs. But nobody listened. The venue, the dress, the guest list all chosen by her soon-to-be mother-in-law and her own older sister.

When they sent her off for a dress fitting, Grace dragged her feet the whole way. In her head, she pictured a monstrosity covered in ruffles and rhinestones. Neither her sister nor Toms mum had ever shown any flashes of style. When she protested, they called her ungrateful and threw a bit of a strop. Grace, however, had bigger fish to fry: A-levels, revision, and the small matter of preparing for a newborn.

She turned up to the registry office in a plain, white dress simple, elegant, and, crucially, chosen by her. Thats when things kicked off.

None of the family knew that Grace was planning to keep her last name. Tom was in on the secret and frankly not fussed. The mother-in-law, however, almost fainted with outrage and started bellowing for the whole room to hear: How can you possibly not change your name?

Grace just smiled, took a discreet step to the side, and thought about all the fun still to come the wedding reception up in Toms home village, surrounded by his entire extended family. No need to waste her nerves now. As it turned out, the marriage didnt last more than a few years. Tom was hopeless as a husband and, if possible, even worse as a dad. Spent every weekend glued to his computer, ignoring Grace and the baby.

Eventually, Graces patience ran out she packed her bags and left.

Her mother-in-law was, predictably, horrified. Grace, meanwhile, exhaled deeply and finally felt free and, for the first time in ages, genuinely happy.

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