“We’re at the train station, you’ve got half an hour to order a business-class taxi for me and my children!” demanded my sister — “Are you really my sister or just a random stranger? Aren’t you ashamed to act like this, especially in front of the kids? Is it really so hard for you to buy your beloved nephews and nieces some new clothes? Why should I have to beg you to buy things for them? You should offer on your own! You ought to help with money! After all, you couldn’t have children, probably never will! But I’m a single mum!” Angela fired words at Nadya like darts, each one aimed to wound and press deeper into her personal space. Nadya had never been the favourite child. Born out of wedlock, her mother only married later, and from then on Nadya felt like she was in the way. Her stepfather resented her, and her mother took her frustration out on her firstborn for having to marry the first man she could find just to avoid single parenthood. It was only after her little sister was born that Nadya began to breathe easier, as now she had a purpose: the family decided the eldest would serve as nanny to the youngest. Nadya was expected to spend all her time caring for her sister, entertaining and teaching her, regardless of schoolwork, hobbies or friendships. If Nadya didn’t feed or change her sister quickly enough, she’d be grounded or forbidden from seeing friends. As Angela grew older, she began treating Nadya just the way their parents did—as little more than a servant. At eighteen, Nadya decided to change her life. She picked the furthest university from home, packed her bags and left, determined never to return. She barely kept in touch; her parents only called to borrow money they never repaid, always citing Angela’s children. Nadya knew Angela had become a mother at seventeen and married at eighteen, thinking a second child would keep her husband out of army service. She gave birth to twins, but soon after, the young father bolted, demanding a divorce. Now the requests for financial help came frequently. Unlike her sister, Nadya had made a life for herself: she’d earned a degree, landed a good job, and managed to buy her own small flat on a mortgage. Once they knew she was managing, her parents called almost weekly, always for money for Angela’s kids—never repaying, never asking how Nadya herself was coping. She still couldn’t shake the guilt drilled into her since childhood. Saying no to her mother was nearly impossible; every call left her struggling to balance her own finances for the month. Her own love life hadn’t flourished—after finding out she couldn’t have children, Nadya’s husband-to-be had left her. When her family discovered she was childless, it became a recurring source of shame in their conversations: “Nadya’s barren… Tough luck! Thank goodness at least our Angela’s given us grandchildren,” her mother would say. After a while, Angela had the brilliant idea to show up on Nadya’s doorstep, unannounced, one of the few weekends Nadya had to herself: “Nadya, where are you? Am I supposed to take the kids on the bus? Order us a taxi, and make sure it’s not the cheap kind! The little ones get carsick in smoky cabs!” “Hi… Where are you, and why should I get you a taxi?” “Mum didn’t tell you? I’ve decided to move in with you. There’s nothing for me in our hometown. I’m at the station; you have half an hour to send a taxi for us.” Angela hung up before Nadya could protest. That evening Angela began issuing orders: “Tomorrow you’ll get me a job at your office—good pay, easy work, and a team with fit young men, please. I’ll need time off whenever I want. Buy the twins a bunk bed—can’t have us all crammed on the same sofa. I’ll sleep in your bed with the boys tonight, you and Polina can take the sofa. Also, it’s nearly winter, so buy the kids proper warm clothes—none of that bargain rubbish. I don’t want people calling me a divorced mum with baggage!” Nadya listened, incredulous that she’d tolerated such treatment for so long; suddenly, she found her courage: “You can spend tonight here, but tomorrow morning I’ll drive you back to the station—you’re going home to Mum and Dad. I’m not supporting you or your children anymore! You chose to have them—raise them yourself. Consider your debts paid in full! And if you’re not gone by morning, I’ll call the police. I don’t care if the kids are with you—they’re your responsibility! You can all sleep on the guest sofa—I’m not giving up my bed!” Angela sputtered her outrage and rang their mother to complain, but Nadya stood firm. In the morning, she didn’t even drive her sister to the station—just handed her a fare for a taxi and the train. “That’s it. Forget the way to my flat. I have my own life, and it doesn’t revolve around your problems,” Nadya said, shutting the door behind her. Afterward, Nadya wept, thought it through, and realised she’d done the right thing—otherwise, her “wonderful” family would have ruined her. Freed from the burden of never-ending obligation, Nadya felt she could finally breathe. She met a man, married, adopted two children and, at last, found happiness.

Were at the station. You have thirty minutes to order a black cab for me and the childrenbusiness class! declared her relative with an air of royal command.

Are you my sister or just some stranger passing by? Have you no shame, especially in front of the children? Is it really so hard for you to buy your beloved nieces and nephews some clothes? Why should I have to ask you at all? You ought to offer! You should be showering us with cash! It’s not as if youve had kids, have you? And its very unlikely you ever will! Im on my own here, a single mother! Angelas words sliced at her sister like darts, each one thrown in the hope it would wound Ella more deeply, trespassing on her dignity.

Ella had never been the favourite child. Her mum had her out of wedlock, and after marrying, found that her eldest daughter seemed always in the way. Her stepfather made snide remarks about food, her mother vented her frustration at having to marry the first chap who came along, just so she wouldnt be left a single mum. Only when her little sister was born did Ella breathe more freelysuddenly, she had a purpose. The new arrangement was clear: Ella would be nanny to her sister.

All her free time was spent feeding, amusing, and educating Angela, her own homework and friends relegated. If Ella failed to change Angelas clothes or feed her on time, she lost the privilege of going out with friends or attending the parties her classmates threw. As time marched on, little Angela mimicked their parents, treating Ella as little more than live-in help.

At eighteen, after finishing school, Ella decided to carve herself a new life. She applied to the furthest university she could find, packed her bags, and left with a vow never to return. She barely kept up with her parents and sister during the next decadethe odd call came, but always to ask for money, never repaid.

Ella had no desire to visit; still, she heard through the grapevine that Angela had become a mum at seventeen, married at eighteen, and tried for a second child so her husband wouldnt be called up to the army. Luckily (or not), she had twins. Her young husband, overwhelmed, ran off and immediately requested a divorce.

Now the calls came more often. Ella, unlike her sister, had made something of her life. After university she started at a firm, quickly distinguishing herself, and with a stable job and slowly increasing salary, she took a modest flat on a mortgage, her own space at last.

Knowing she wasn’t struggling, her parents would call weekly to ask for loans for Angelas children. The cash never came back.

Ella, Pollys jackets torn. Send £70, shes got nothing to wear to nursery in the morning!

Ella, the twins need birthday presents! Angelas found the perfect ones. Thats £150 from you.

Ella! Angelas lost another jobthey just dont get she has far more important things to do than work. So now youll be paying the twins nursery fees and Pollys school prep!

Each request was barked like an order, never pausing to ask if Ella could actually afford it. How Ella herself was doing? Her mother simply assumed she was thriving, away from the family. Never a hint of pride in her eldests accomplishments, only critiqueshe could work harder; she could send more home.

But Ella could never shake the guilt, hammered into her since girlhood, and couldn’t bring herself to refuse her mum. After each call, she sighed and went through her spending, deciding what shed need to go without that month.

Ellas love life was less eventful than her sisters, but she, too, had her failed marriage. Shed met a colleague at work, theyd become engaged, only for doctors to break the news: she couldnt have children. Her fiancé decided she was not what he wanted and left. Ella endured it alone, telling her mother only years later. From then on, her childlessness was a constant family refrain.

Our Ellas a dud… So unlucky! Good thing Angelas given me grandchildrenher mother would say. For a little while, they left her in peace, but one rare weekend off, Ellas doorbell rang.

Ella, where are you? Am I supposed to get the kids to yours on the bus? Hurry up and order us a black cab! Make sure its not second-ratemy babies get sick in dirty taxisdont cheap out!

Hello? And why exactly must I get you a cab? Ella asked, blindsided.

Hasnt Mum told you? Ive decided to move in. Theres nothing left in our little town! Ill live with you. Im at the station; youve got half an hour for a taxi to get us. Angela hung up, and Ella sat down hardso much for putting two hundred miles between herself and her pushy sister.

That evening, Angela set about issuing instructions.

Tomorrow, youll find me a job in your office. Youre a manager, arent you? Good pay, mind, but nothing too taxing. And make sure there are young men about, and that I can leave early whenever I want! Buy the twins a bunk bedwe cant possibly all squeeze onto your settee. Tonight, Ill kindly let you sleep with Polly on the sofa, and Ill take your bed with the boys. And buy the children clothes for winternothing less than the best! I wont be made to feel ashamed, a divorcée with baggage!

Ella sat listening, unable to figure out why she hadnt yet thrown this spoiled madam out. Why did she put up with any of it? Why had she never set boundaries? Suddenly, something brokethe anger swelled, outrage at her parents, a desperate urge to right an old wrong. She jumped up and signalled Angela to be quiet.

Youll stay one night here. Then tomorrow morning, Ill drive you to the station and youll go back to Mum and Dad! I wont support you or send money for your children again! You had them, you raise them. Ive had enough! I didnt give birth to you; your life isnt my responsibility. Consider any family debts cleared by all the help Ive given. If youre not gone by morning, Ill call the policeI dont care that youve got the kids. Theyre your kids, your worry! Youll all squeeze onto the guest sofacomfort isnt my concern!

Ella spoke with such conviction that Angela could only splutter. She fumed, called their mother to complain, but Ella ignored it all. The next morning, without fuss, Ella put Angela and her children out on the street, giving her some cash for a cab and the train.

Thats it. Forget where I live. Ive got my own life, and it doesnt revolve around you, Ella said, closing the door. She had a long, weeping think, but the relief was immense. Had she not done it, theyd have pushed her out of her own life.

Free at last from weighty family ties, Ella felt as though shed finally breathed with both lungs. She met a lovely man, and in two years they married. Together, they adopted two children, and, at last, lived happily ever after.

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“We’re at the train station, you’ve got half an hour to order a business-class taxi for me and my children!” demanded my sister — “Are you really my sister or just a random stranger? Aren’t you ashamed to act like this, especially in front of the kids? Is it really so hard for you to buy your beloved nephews and nieces some new clothes? Why should I have to beg you to buy things for them? You should offer on your own! You ought to help with money! After all, you couldn’t have children, probably never will! But I’m a single mum!” Angela fired words at Nadya like darts, each one aimed to wound and press deeper into her personal space. Nadya had never been the favourite child. Born out of wedlock, her mother only married later, and from then on Nadya felt like she was in the way. Her stepfather resented her, and her mother took her frustration out on her firstborn for having to marry the first man she could find just to avoid single parenthood. It was only after her little sister was born that Nadya began to breathe easier, as now she had a purpose: the family decided the eldest would serve as nanny to the youngest. Nadya was expected to spend all her time caring for her sister, entertaining and teaching her, regardless of schoolwork, hobbies or friendships. If Nadya didn’t feed or change her sister quickly enough, she’d be grounded or forbidden from seeing friends. As Angela grew older, she began treating Nadya just the way their parents did—as little more than a servant. At eighteen, Nadya decided to change her life. She picked the furthest university from home, packed her bags and left, determined never to return. She barely kept in touch; her parents only called to borrow money they never repaid, always citing Angela’s children. Nadya knew Angela had become a mother at seventeen and married at eighteen, thinking a second child would keep her husband out of army service. She gave birth to twins, but soon after, the young father bolted, demanding a divorce. Now the requests for financial help came frequently. Unlike her sister, Nadya had made a life for herself: she’d earned a degree, landed a good job, and managed to buy her own small flat on a mortgage. Once they knew she was managing, her parents called almost weekly, always for money for Angela’s kids—never repaying, never asking how Nadya herself was coping. She still couldn’t shake the guilt drilled into her since childhood. Saying no to her mother was nearly impossible; every call left her struggling to balance her own finances for the month. Her own love life hadn’t flourished—after finding out she couldn’t have children, Nadya’s husband-to-be had left her. When her family discovered she was childless, it became a recurring source of shame in their conversations: “Nadya’s barren… Tough luck! Thank goodness at least our Angela’s given us grandchildren,” her mother would say. After a while, Angela had the brilliant idea to show up on Nadya’s doorstep, unannounced, one of the few weekends Nadya had to herself: “Nadya, where are you? Am I supposed to take the kids on the bus? Order us a taxi, and make sure it’s not the cheap kind! The little ones get carsick in smoky cabs!” “Hi… Where are you, and why should I get you a taxi?” “Mum didn’t tell you? I’ve decided to move in with you. There’s nothing for me in our hometown. I’m at the station; you have half an hour to send a taxi for us.” Angela hung up before Nadya could protest. That evening Angela began issuing orders: “Tomorrow you’ll get me a job at your office—good pay, easy work, and a team with fit young men, please. I’ll need time off whenever I want. Buy the twins a bunk bed—can’t have us all crammed on the same sofa. I’ll sleep in your bed with the boys tonight, you and Polina can take the sofa. Also, it’s nearly winter, so buy the kids proper warm clothes—none of that bargain rubbish. I don’t want people calling me a divorced mum with baggage!” Nadya listened, incredulous that she’d tolerated such treatment for so long; suddenly, she found her courage: “You can spend tonight here, but tomorrow morning I’ll drive you back to the station—you’re going home to Mum and Dad. I’m not supporting you or your children anymore! You chose to have them—raise them yourself. Consider your debts paid in full! And if you’re not gone by morning, I’ll call the police. I don’t care if the kids are with you—they’re your responsibility! You can all sleep on the guest sofa—I’m not giving up my bed!” Angela sputtered her outrage and rang their mother to complain, but Nadya stood firm. In the morning, she didn’t even drive her sister to the station—just handed her a fare for a taxi and the train. “That’s it. Forget the way to my flat. I have my own life, and it doesn’t revolve around your problems,” Nadya said, shutting the door behind her. Afterward, Nadya wept, thought it through, and realised she’d done the right thing—otherwise, her “wonderful” family would have ruined her. Freed from the burden of never-ending obligation, Nadya felt she could finally breathe. She met a man, married, adopted two children and, at last, found happiness.