About a year ago my wife and I made the decision to separate and stay in our rooms so we wouldn’t annoy each other and bore each other. After all, we each have our own things to do.
For example, my wife likes to listen to music loudly, and she refuses to wear headphones. I like to read books in complete silence. Or watch soap operas. Sometimes I have to take work home and talk to clients on the phone. In this case I can disturb her. So she and I decided to live apart. There are only two rooms in the apartment. Both are furnished. So I want to share my experience of living apart.
Not coming in without knocking is the best solution. It’s so cool – you sit in your room, minding your own business, no one comes in and doesn’t demand anything from you. You might think, what is there to do that you have to knock on the door?
It’s nothing like that. I just had my own room when I was a kid, but the door was always open. And my parents would periodically come in and ask me what I was doing. It didn’t matter what I was doing – reading, sleeping, watching TV, playing. And I had to make excuses all the time. No one was picking on me, it was just the way it was. And I was uncomfortable with it.
Now I just tell my wife through a closed door that I’m busy. And if I don’t want to talk to her, I don’t let her in. And she doesn’t barge in, I don’t have to interrupt my activity. She goes on her way. That’s great!
Having personal space is the ultimate pleasure!
I go to my room and do whatever I feel like doing. I do not conform to anyone, do not ask anyone’s permission, do not coordinate anything with anyone. I put my own things in my room, arrange things as I see fit. Or I just enjoy the mess.
Some intrigue…
There are clear boundaries between my own and someone else’s. Those are the most important feelings. I respect her space and just wait to meet her. I don’t break into her place, I ask her if I can go in and see her. And when I get an affirmative answer, it’s very nice. It’s not like that when you can walk in any minute – there’s no intrigue.
It’s like talking to a girl who isn’t yours yet. You never know until the last moment whether or not she will agree to an offer of intimacy.
After all, so many men notice that once they start living together, the sharpness of sensations goes away, everything is different. After all, the wife is always available and the others are not. so sharing a room solves a lot of issues.
What conclusions I’ve drawn.
It is clear that if we are talking about wealthy people who have a country house with ten rooms and several bathrooms, they always live this way. It’s nothing new to them. Only for ordinary people like us, it’s really a godsend.
I know that there are some people who have one or two rooms at their disposal, continue to live together in one room. All the time. Around the clock. After all, children often live in the other room. And if there is a third room, it is used as a living room. But what’s the point? After all, both husband and wife need their personal space. Even if we are talking about regular apartments.