My Maria takes everything very personally. She has a lot of worries and complexes of her own, and after the birth of a child they were exacerbated. Not only did my daddy call her “full” before, but he had the conscience to call her a “mare” when he came with me and Maria’s parents to pick up her and her granddaughter from the maternity hospital.
My wife was very offended by this. I could see that he was not very happy with her, and now this. Maria was very offended, cried a lot because of it, tortured herself with extreme diets, and because of that she lost her milk early. And this was just additional problems for us, as a young family with a tiny baby.
I stood up for my wife, arguing that the father had to apologize, but he would not. We argued on the phone and that was it. My pride did not allow me to call him, and he did not have enough conscience to make the first step. He called me almost two months later. And not for an apology. While my Maria was suffering, he was calling to see what I was going to get my mother for her birthday. Because she made a list of gifts for him, and he alone can not afford everything. He wants me to put up the money.
And I want him to apologize to my wife and behave properly. I think that’s a lot easier than asking me for money. My mother knows that the baby and I can’t give her anything more than that, and my father had the good sense to ask me for it. I guess he figured I’d cooled off and we weren’t expecting any more apologies. He’s always blurting something out without thinking, and he doesn’t realize how it hurts other people and has bad consequences.
