Warming Up the Marriage
Listen, Liz… What if we tried an open marriage? Henry asked her gently.
What? Elizabeth blinked, uncertain if shed heard him right. Are you actually serious?
Whats wrong with it? Its perfectly normal, her husband replied, struggling to keep a composed face as he shrugged. Look at people across Europethey do it all the time. They say it even brings a spark to a marriage. Remember how you once said a little bit of chocolate on a diet doesnt hurt, actually helps you stick with it? Bit of variety is good for everything.
Elizabeth blinked slowly, trying to process his absurd suggestion. Comparing a mistress to a chocolate bara spectacularly foolish or brazen analogy.
Henry… she began, her tone measured. If you want to leave, then leave properly. Ill give you your freedom, but dont drag me into this nonsense.
Come on, Liz, why are you being so prickly? I do love you. Its just that… things have lost their spark. We hardly even talk, apart from shopping lists and the energy bill. We sleep back to back… It all feels so bland now, and we both need a shake-up. Im not putting limits on you, either! You could meet someone yourself, get out a bit. What harm would it do?
Elizabeth narrowed her eyes. Suddenly, she could see clearly; her husband was lying. That dodgy glance, the restless fingers drumming on the table… He wanted his freedom, just not tomorrowhed wanted it yesterday.
Henry, tell me honestly. Have you already met someone? Is that what this is all about? Youre suggesting all this so you wont feel guilty?
Oh, for heavens sake! Henry huffed, waving a hand. Would I really ask you this if that were the case? Honestly, I regret bringing it up at all. Youre such an old-fashioned girl. Never mind, forget I said anything…
With the self-righteous air of a misunderstood saint, he stood and left the room, leaving Elizabeth alone with her thoughts.
Twenty-five years. Shed given him her best years, weathered his ups and downs, the tight months, his constant late nights at the officethose late nights now seeming suspicious in a new light. Now here he was, well-fed and comfortable, inviting her to join him in this betrayal of their family. Get out a bit… An all-too-convenient phrase.
That night they slept in separate roomsor, tried to. Elizabeth lay in bed, staring from ceiling to window, wondering how theyd reached this point. Once, Henry had brought home armfuls of lilac, worked hard to give her a beautiful wedding, rejoiced at their daughters birth. Now? She almost wished hed just walked out.
Was there a point of no return? Maybe when she stopped wearing makeup around the house, not caring if she looked pretty for him? Or when he first forgot their anniversary, blaming an emergency at work? Maybe, but it hardly mattered anymore.
She wanted to file for divorce and forget everything. But how do you throw half your life away so easily?
They had no passion left, perhaps, but they had habit, shared possessions, and a life built together. Henry had always seemed a stable presence, after all. Their daughter was grown and gone, the future meant old ageand more than once, theyd nursed each other through sickness, or scraped together the money when emergencies struck. Once, hed even taken out a loan to help her mother. Few men would do that.
A swirl of emotions roiled inside Elizabeth: pain, fear, anger. Maybe he thinks Ill never find anyone else, she caught herself wondering. He thinks Im some frumpy housewife, destined to knit socks for the grandchildren and dutifully wait for him to return. No chance.
Alright then, she told Henry the next morning. Lets do it your way.
What do you mean? he frowned.
I agree to your open relationship.
Henry nearly choked on his tea. Hed braced for a row, not calm acceptance.
Well… Good. You might actually enjoy it, he managed, Oh, and Ill be late home tonight.
Her heart twisted with fresh hurt. That quickly?
The evening dragged on: grey, quiet, empty. Elizabeth felt discarded, evaluated and found wantinglike last years model of mobile phone.
She approached the mirror. Yes, her eyes were a bit tired, faint smile lines at the corners, skin no longer flawlessbut her figure had held up well, hair still thick. Maybe she was still attractive. Maybe the problem was Henry, not her.
Other men had certainly found her desirable. Like Andrew from the next departmenttransferred from another branch a month ago. He was charming, with distinguished grey at his temples, a husky laugh, and a mischievous twinkle in his eye. From the start, hed noticed Elizabethkind words, holding doors, bringing her coffee. Hed even asked her out for lunch a few times, then dinner last week.
Sorry, Andrew, Im on a special dietits called marriage, Elizabeth had joked, brushing him off.
Lizzy, marriage is a bit of ink in a registry, not a lockdown, hed grinned. But I wont push it, of course.
If Henry wanted open relationships, if he wanted her to get out a bitwhy not? Why shouldnt she?
Good evening, Andrew. Does your dinner invitation still stand? Seems Ive suddenly got both time and reason to break my diet, she messaged him.
It wasnt revenge. Elizabeth simply wanted to feel like a woman againto find herself, after being trampled on by Henrys carelessness.
Andrew was the perfect gentleman all eveningpulling out her chair, topping up her wine glass, really listening. The way he looked at her made her feel like the only woman in the place.
Elizabeth felt a trace of guilt, but also the thrill of new attentiona reminder of life outside Henrys leftovers and lost socks.
Come back to mine? Andrew asked as she finished her dessert. We can pick up a bottle of wine, watch something… keep the evening going.
She nodded, excitement and nerves jostling inside her. A tiny voice whispered, Stopbut she remembered Henry urging her to get out a bit.
As they arrived at Andrews flat, her phone buzzed insistently. Henry. She declined the callonce, twice. Persistent.
Yes? she answered coolly, finally picking up.
Where the hell are you? Henry exploded. Its ten at night! Fridge is bare, nothing to eat, and youre not home! Have you lost your senses?
Elizabeth froze. Andrew, hearing the commotion, politely retreated. The moment crumbled.
Im out, Henry, she replied, her voice even. On a date, actually.
What? A date? Are you mad?
Do you need me to explain like Im speaking to a child? You suggested open marriage, remember? Told me to see other people, get out a bit. So thats exactly what Im doing. Bit odd when the shoes on the other foot, isnt it?
A heavy silence thudded between them. Then Henrys frustration burst.
You… Youve really gone to someones place? I was joking! It was a test! Understand? A test! And you couldnt wait, could you? Played at being upset for a day then ran off to someone else?
Elizabeth felt adrift.
So, Henry, who did you see tonight?
No one! I was at work, thats all! Henry snapped. Right, thats it… I dont want any nastiness from you. Either pack your things or Im leaving. Your choice. Were getting divorced.
The line disconnected. Elizabeth stared at the wall, feeling spat on and worthless.
Everything alright? Andrew called through.
Yes… its nothing, she faltered, half-heartedly trying to smile.
Liz… its not the right time now. I think you should probably go and deal with things at home, he said gently, glancing at the clock.
Cinderellas coach had turned into a pumpkin. The debonair gent had no desire to get stained by someone elses family drama. He could hardly be blamedhe was ready for a light, pleasant evening and had received a tangled mess instead.
Shouldve just filed for divorce. But hindsight, as always, showed up too late.
That night, Elizabeth checked into a hotel. She wasnt going home to a furious Henry, and needed time to admit to herself: things would never be the same.
Three years later…
Life had carved away the unnecessaryalbeit rather painfully.
Henry found a new lady suspiciously quickly. Before the divorce papers were dry, in fact. She left him, oddly enough, just as they sold the family home, and helped herself to his share of the money on the way out.
Things with Andrew led nowhere. They still crossed paths in the office, but only traded polite words now. Elizabeth realised something important: those men who love playing the charmer vanish like mist at the first whiff of responsibilitylet alone if even a hint of partner for life” appears.
But Elizabeth didnt look for anyone else. Living alone in her new flat, she realised she suddenly had time and energy she never knew she had. Once swallowed up by Henrys demands, she now used it for herselffor her own sake, not someone elses.
Swimming every morning eased her back, and English lessons kept her mind sharp. She cropped her hair and updated her wardrobe completely.
Most importantlyshe became a grandmother.
Her daughter, Mary, had a baby girl six months before. When the divorce drama was at its peak, Mary had taken her fathers side at first. Henry cast himself as a victim and spun stories about how her mother had destroyed the family for another man.
But the truth wins out in the end. Mary visited her mother to confront her, to look her in the eye. Instead, she met an honest, if worn, womannot the wayward wife her father described.
Elizabeth told her everything. How Henry had been the one to suggest it all. How hed been coming home later and later. How shed felt lonely for years. Mary, married herself now, understood. When Henry shacked up with another woman so soon, she fully sided with her mother.
Now Elizabeth sat in Marys kitchen, cuddling her granddaughter. Little Sophie tried enthusiastically to grip her grandmothers finger.
Dad called again today… Mary said, wrinkling her nose. Wants to pop in, see Sophie.
And what did you say? Elizabeth asked softly.
I told him wed be out of town, Mary replied, sighing. I just dont want him around. He slags you off one minute, then tries to get us to reconcile the next. Every time he shows up, I stress. Besides, I wont have him poisoning Sophie against you. Let him enjoy his precious freedom…
Elizabeth said nothing, hugging her grandchild a little closer.
So, Henry got what he wanted: absolute freedom. No wife waiting up for him, no one nagging him to come home, no obstacle to watching television all night. Onlyhe discovered freedom has the aftertaste of loneliness. But it was far too late to start over.
Sometimes, the search for excitement leads not to new love, but only reinforces the importance of loyalty, respect, and honesty. Elizabeth learned, in the end, that self-respect and peace of mind are worth more than a thousand fleeting sparks.












