Three years ago, I divorced my husband. The only thing we truly shared was our son. I wasnt even surprised when, just a month after the divorce, my ex-husband found himself a new, younger girlfriend. Three months ago, they got married.
To be honest, it doesn’t bother me anymore. But yesterday, she sent me a message that left me quite confused. She said we ought to leave James alone and stop expecting money from him because, from now on, we wouldnt be getting a penny.
My son is five years old. I used to be on maternity leave, so James covered all of our expenses. Now, I work part-time.
Right after the divorce, we agreed to sell our three-bedroom flat and split the proceeds to buy two separate placesone for my ex-husband and the other for myself and our son.
James pays very decent child support. But I want to be able to provide for myself, so Im always going to job interviews, searching for a full-time position. The money James sends every month is spent solely on our sonit covers nursery fees, extra activities, toys, and food. I use a bit to help with the utility bills.
The judo classes my son wishes to attend also require additional funds.
This summer, my ex sent some extra money on the condition that I take our son on holiday. So we went to the Lake District. My son was overjoyed; nothing could have made him happier.
I am grateful that James, despite the divorce, doesnt forget his child. Even if I had urgent matters to attend to, I would leave our son with him. James would often take him to shopping centres, out on walks, or to the cinema. Still, our son never visited his fathers home.
I always assumed the reason was my exs new wife. Of course, I didnt pay it much mind, until I received that message from her.
Recently, she even found the nerve to phone me. She accused me of being heartless, claiming James was spending the bulk of his wages on us. I didnt stay silent. I told James everything at once. He was furious. Apparently, he told her to keep out of his affairs, and certainly not to meddle with his money.
Yet, I cant help but worry that shell eventually persuade James to cut back on his financial support for our son. Then, Id have no choice but to deprive my child of many things.
I can only hope that James still has that decency, honesty, and kindness that I once fell in love with. Sometimes, lifes challenges can reveal who we really are, and I hopefor our sons sakethat he remembers what truly matters.
