You dont need to sit at the table. You should be serving us, my mother-in-law announced sharply.
I stood next to the cooker in the chill of the morning kitchen, hair hurriedly tied back, still wearing my crumpled pyjamas. The air hung thick with the scent of toast and strong English breakfast tea.
At the little wooden stool by the table, my seven-year-old daughter sat scribbling colourful curls with her markers, nose buried in her sketchbook.
Are you making those slimming slices again? came the voice behind me.
I jumped.
Gracemy mother-in-lawstood at the doorway, mouth pursed, bathrobe knotted tightly, hair swept up in a severe bun. Her presence seemed to demand obedience.
Ill have you know I had to cobble together whatever for lunch yesterday, she continued, snapping a tea towel onto the edge of the counter. No proper soup, nothing like a real meal. Can you even cook eggs for once? Proper ones, not those trendy concoctions of yours!
I flicked off the cooker and opened the fridge, biting back the coil of anger winding in my chest. Not in front of my child. And not here, where every square inch echoed, Youre only here for now.
Right away, I muttered, turning so she wouldnt see my trembling.
My daughter kept her eyes fixed on the bright markers, but watched her grandmother warily from the corner of her gazequiet, smaller than usual, on edge.
Well live at my mums place, my husband had said.
He made it sound sensible, rational. Temporary.
Well stay with herjust for a little bit. Two months at most. Its close to work and well have the mortgage sorted soon. Mum doesnt mind.
I hesitated. Not because there was bad blood with Gracewe were always civil, on the surface. But I knew well:
Two grown women in one kitchenits a minefield.
And Grace was obsessed with order, control, and her own brand of moral correctness.
But there was no true choice.
We sold our old flat at lightning speed, and the new one was still far from ready. So the three of us squeezed into Graces two-bedroom flat.
Just for now.
Control invaded our daily lives.
The first few days passed quietly. Grace was almost pointedly politeshe brought out an extra chair for my daughter and treated us to her homemade shortbread.
But by the third morning, the rules began.
Theres order in my house, she declared over breakfast. Up by eight. Shoes only in the tray. Groceries must be agreed beforehand. And the telly, lower pleaseIm sensitive to noise.
My husband laughed it off, waving her away.
Mum, were only here for a bit. Well manage.
I nodded, silent, swallowing the word manage like a sentence.
And day by day, I started disappearing.
A week passed. Then another.
Her grip tightened.
Grace removed my daughters drawings from the tableClutter.
She whipped off the tartan tablecloth I’d spreadImpractical.
She tossed my cerealIts been sitting here ages, must be off.
She moved my shampoosCant be having them in the way.
I felt less like a guest, more like someone without a voice, without a right to exist.
My food was wrong.
My habitsunnecessary.
My childfar too noisy.
My husband kept repeating,
Just be patient. Its Mums place. Shes always been like this.
But I day after day, lost little pieces of myself.
The woman whod once been calm and confident almost vanished, replaced by a shadow forever accommodating, forever silent.
Life by rules that werent mine.
Every morning, I woke at six, scrambled to nab the bathroom first, cooked porridge, dressed my daughter, desperate to avoid Graces scorn.
In the evening, I cooked two dinners.
One for us.
One by the book for her.
No onions.
Then with onions.
Then in only her saucepan.
Then only in her frying pan.
I dont ask much, shed lecture, just the decent way. As it should be.
The day humiliation went public.
One morning, Id barely washed my face and switched on the kettle when Grace burst into the kitchen, as if privacy were unthinkable.
My friends are coming today, at two. Youre home, so youll prepare the table. A few pickles, a salad, something for teajust the basics.
With Grace, just the basics meant a feast.
OhI didnt know. The shopping
Youll buy whats needed. Ive written a list. Nothing difficult.
So I put on my coat and walked to the shop.
Bought everything:
Chicken, potatoes, fresh dill, apples for pie, biscuits
Back home, it was non-stop cooking.
By two, the table was laid perfectly, the chicken roasted, the salad crisp, the pie elegantly golden.
Three ladies arrived, all coiffed and perfumed with scents of another era.
Within moments, I realisedI was not one of them.
I was the help.
Come, come sit here by us, Grace smiled sweetly. So you can serve.
Serve you? I echoed.
Whats the fuss? Were oldersurely its no bother for you.
So there I was again:
Tray in hand, ladling out soup and slicing bread.
More tea, dear.
A touch more sugar.
The salads run out.
This chickens a bit dry one grumbled.
Youve overbaked the pie, sniffed another.
I gritted my teeth. I smiled. I cleared plates, poured tea.
No one asked if I wanted to sit.
Or breathe.
How lovely it is to have a young woman about the house! Grace declared with feigned warmth. Everything depends on her!
In that moment something inside broke.
That evening, I finally spoke my truth.
When the guests left, I scrubbed every dish, packed away leftovers, washed the tablecloth.
Then I sat at the far end of the sofa, an empty mug dangling from my hand.
Night had crept in outside.
My daughter curled in sleep like a little fox.
My husband tapped away on his phone.
Listen I whispered, firm, but soft. I cant go on like this.
He looked up at me, genuinely taken aback.
Were living like strangers. Im just here to serve everyone. And you do you see it?
He was silent.
This isn’t a home. Its a life where Im always accommodating, always quiet. Im here with our child. I cant wait more months. I cant always be convenient and unseen.
He nodded slowly.
I understand Sorry I didnt realise sooner. Well find a flatanything. At least itll be ours.
We started looking that very night.
Our own placeeven if tiny.
The flat was small. The landlord left ancient furniture. The floors creaked and moaned.
But the moment I stepped inside I felt free. As if my voice had finally returned.
There we made it, sighed my husband, dropping the bags.
Grace said nothing. She didnt try to stop us.
I couldnt tell if she was hurt, or just understood shed gone too far.
A week went by.
Mornings began with music.
My daughter drew on the floor.
My husband brewed coffee.
And I sat and smiled.
No stress.
No rush.
No more Just be patient.
Thank you, he said one morning, hugging me. For not keeping quiet.
I looked him in the eyes.
Thank you, for listening to me.
Life still wasnt perfect.
But this was our home.
With our rules.
Our noise.
Our life.
And that, finally, was real.
Would you have stayed ‘just for a while’, or left by the end of that first week?












