The woman left home, abandoning her husband and children, and two days later received a letter
After coming home from work, I decided to settle down and watch the football match in peace, without tending to any household or parenting duties. I didn’t feel like putting the children to bed as they were shouting and bickering.
That evening, however, everything was about to changemy wife, after losing her patience, slammed the door and left. The children remained with me. My calm world of having a pint on the sofa was suddenly turned upside down. A few days later, this is what I wrote to my wife:
My dearest,
We had an argument a few days ago. I came home, exhausted. It was 8 oclock, and all I wanted was to stretch out on the sofa and watch the match.
You were in a terrible mood and visibly drained. The little ones were squabbling and yelling while you tried to settle them for bed.
I turned up the volume so I wouldn’t hear them.
It wouldnt kill you to help a little and actually share some of the work with the children, would it? you said, lowering the volume.
Frustrated, I shot back, I’ve been working all day so you can stay home and play house.
That set it offa row erupted, one point followed another. You started crying because you were tired and angry. I said so many things. You shouted that you couldnt take any more. Then you stormed out, leaving me with the kids.
I had to feed and tuck them in all by myself. You didnt come back the next day. I took a day off work and stayed home with the children.
I dealt with every tantrum and outburst.
I spent the day running around, not having a single moment even to have a quick wash.
I was in the house all day and couldn’t talk to anyone over the age of ten.
I never got the chance to sit and enjoy a hot mealsomething always needed doing for the children.
I felt so tired I could have slept for twenty hours straight, but that’s impossible because a child wakes and cries every three hours.
I lived without you for two days and one night. And I realised everything.
I realised just how weary you must be.
I understand now: being a mum is a constant act of giving.
It’s far more demanding than sitting in an office for ten hours making big decisions about money.
I see now that you have put aside your own career and financial independence just to be here for our children.
I understand how hard it must be when your financial security depends not on you, but your partner.
I get what you sacrifice when you turn down a night out or a gym session with friends. You can’t pursue your favourite hobbies, or even sleep properly.
I know now what it feels like to be stuck inside with the kids, missing everything that goes on in the world outside.
I finally understand why it stings when my mother criticises your parenting methods. No one knows the children like their mum.
I’ve realised mothers bear the greatest responsibility in society. Yet, sadly, no one truly values or praises that enough.
Im not writing this just to say I miss you. I dont want another day of your life to pass without you hearing these words:
You are incredibly brave, you do an amazing job, and I admire you so much!
Being a wife, mother, and homemakerthough the most important workis sadly the least celebrated. Please share this letter with your friends, so we might finally all begin to appreciate the most important role in the world: being a mum.












