This month the money just vanished, poof, nothing left I was pulling on my boots, perched on the stool by the hall, trying to make sense of it all.
Evelyn gave a halfnod while wiping the dust off the hallway mirror. I slipped the old vinyl onto the turntable.
We need to tighten the belt. And you might want to think about stopping the extra help you give your family.
Her rag hung in the air for a beat. Evelyn turned slowly toward me.
Really? Thats all you think we should cut?
I zipped up my jacket without looking up.
What else then?
The door behind me clicked shut.
I walked out of the kitchen like that, and a hot, heavy surge of anger rose in Evelyns chest. She tossed the rag into the bucket and drifted into the living room. Baxter, my massive Labrador, was sprawled on his little bed that looked more like a cot for a baby. He cracked one eye open, gave his tail a lazy wag, then went back to dozing. Evelyn stared at him and her fury grew with every second.
Five years of marriage five years of a joint budget where we never kept tabs on each others spending. Our salaries were pretty close she works as an accountant at a big firm, Im a sales manager. We always had enough for the bills and a bit of fun.
I never held back on my hobbies. Rockclimbing twice a week with a private coach cost me £250 a session, boxing with another trainer was another £150, plus gear that Im constantly updating. Then theres Baxter premium food, regular vet visits, grooming, toys that he shreds in a day. All told, it was at least £500 a month.
And Evelyn? She helped Mum with her medication a tiny pension and pricey bloodpressure pills. She also looked after her sister Claires little daughter, Maisie Claires husband left a year ago, shes getting pocketchange in child support. Thats about £350£400 a month. Plus her corporate gym membership, which is about £200 a year practically nothing.
It used to work. Each of us spent on what we thought mattered. Then last year we took out a mortgage on a twobed flat in a new development outside London. This year my sales dipped, bonuses were slashed, and Evelyns performance bonus was cut too. We could still keep up the mortgage, but holidays by the sea or new phones were out of the question.
A month ago Evelyn gently suggested we each trim a bit of our personal spending. I got defensive, pouted like a child, but I gave it some thought. And guess what? I decided the cuts should fall only on her side.
Evelyn grabbed her phone, about to call Claire, then changed her mind. Winding herself up further wasnt going to help. She figured a good cleanup would calm her nerves physical work always does.
Two days passed in a tense silence. I pretended nothing had happened. Evelyn let the anger snowball, rolling it stubbornly around inside her. On the third evening, as we were having dinner, I brought it up again.
Evie, have you given any thought about the expenses?
The fork clinked against the plate. Evelyn lifted her eyes to me.
Why are we only cutting my side? Youre not going to touch your climbing or your other fun, are you?
Thats a different story! I set my fork down. I spend on myself, so its a joint thing. Youre just pulling the rope the other way!
Joint? Evelyn gasped, half choking on her fury. What does my climbing have to do with it? And how much do you spend on Baxter each month, did you forget?
Its for my health! And Baxters part of the family!
And my mum and my sisters child arent part of the family?
Theyre not our family!
Evelyn slumped back in her chair, hands crossed over her chest.
Fine. Would you be happy if I started splashing £600£700 a month on spa treatments, a beautician, massages?
I jumped up so fast I nearly knocked the chair over.
Thats sabotage! Youve never done that before! Youre only saying it to be stubborn! I need my sport, you know? Its a need!
My need is to help my relatives! I still spend less on them than you do on yourself!
Thats different!
How so? Evelyn rose from the table as well. Explain why your boxing coach matters more than my nieces schoolbooks?
Dont twist it! Im just asking you to be reasonable with the money!
Reasonable means only I save? she retorted.
We stood on opposite sides of the table like boxers in a ring. Baxter whined, trotted over, and nudged his head against my knee.
Your spending doesnt help us!
And yours? What does the family get from you scaling walls like SpiderMan?
I turned a shade redder, stormed off to the bedroom, slamming the door. Evelyn was left standing by the table, the dinner growing cold.
The next morning Claire called.
Evie, I know everything. James rang me.
What? When?
Yesterday evening. He said youre having a tough time and asked me not to press you for money. He said well manage somehow.
Claire, its not about the cash. Its about principle. He wants me to fund the mortgage, food, his hobbies and the dog, while my family has to fend for themselves.
Maybe you two can talk it out?
Talk? About me becoming his unpaid maid?
After that call Evelyn decided enough was enough.
That evening, barely as I slipped through the front door, she met me in the hallway.
Were splitting the budget from now on.
What? I hadnt even taken my coat off. Evie, dont be ridiculous!
Im tired of arguing. From now on each of us pays half the mortgage, utilities, groceries. Whatevers left we can spend on whatever we like.
Thats unfair! Weve always had a joint budget!
Its about time it changed.
I tried to shout, to claim she was tearing the family apart, but she was unmoved. The next day she opened a separate bank account and transferred her salary into it.
The first week I put on a brave face. By the second week I was complaining about having to cut back. By midmonth my cash ran dry I missed two climbing sessions and had to switch Baxter to the cheaper kibble.
Evie, cant we just go back? I asked as she was cooking herself dinner. Youre acting like a child.
Im acting like an adult who controls her own money.
But were a family, Evie
Family doesnt mean I hand you access to my cash.
I gritted my teeth and left.
Another month went by. Things got worse. We barely spoke, slept in different rooms I moved onto the sofa in the living room. Baxter paced between us, whimpering at night.
When payday rolled around, I threw a fit.
Stop this circus! Lets go back to the joint budget like before!
Why? Evelyn was painting her nails.
Im broke!
Cut your costs.
I cant give up my sport! Its my health!
And I cant stop helping my family. My conscience wont let me.
Conscience? I shouted. Youre selfish! You only think of yourself!
Evelyn slowly stood, met my gaze.
Im selfish? Im the one who helps relatives. And you, who only cares about your muscles and fun, think youre being altruistic?
Youre useless! All you do is move money around!
And what do you do? Climb walls and feed the dog?
Why did I even marry you?
She turned, headed to the bedroom, and started packing a suitcase. I froze in the doorway.
What are you doing?
Im moving in with Claire. Ive had enough.
Evie, wait, lets talk calmly
Talk about what? You called me useless. Why would I stay?
She snapped the suitcase shut and walked past me, Baxter whining after her.
Claires onebed flat was cramped just her, me, and little Maisie but at least it was peaceful. No one kept asking where every pound went, no one called me useless.
A week later Evelyn filed for divorce. I called, texted, even showed up at Claires door, but they wouldnt let me in. I begged her to come back, promised things would be different. Shed already made up her mind.
The flat was sold quickly a good neighbourhood, fresh renovation. We split the proceeds, the furniture, the appliances. Baxter went with me.
Evelyn took out a modest mortgage on a cosy onebedroom in an old but charming terrace house. It needed a bit of cosmetic work, but no one was poking at her wallet.
In the first month after moving, she sent her mum to a care home something shed promised for ages. She bought Claire a new laptop for Maisies schoolwork and got herself a membership at a nice health club with a pool.
In the evenings she settled with a cup of her favourite tea. On her phone sat an unread message from me, something about finally understanding my mistakes and wanting to change. She deleted it without a reply.
That tiny flat was now entirely hers. The money was hers too, and she could spend it however she saw fit, without having to account for anyone else’s climbing sessions, dog food, or opinions about what was right or wrong.












