The Neighbour Has Decided She Can Ask for Anything! Now All She Needs is to Move in with Me.

My neighbour, Mrs. Margaret Ellis, has decided that she can ask for anything she likes now she just needs to move in next door.

I need a fresh perspective. Heres the situation: my daughter Blythe is friends with a boy from the street, Tom, who is a few years older. I see Margaret from time to time, but I wouldnt call her a friend.

We began to see each other more often because of the kids. We met on walks, she would give me handmedowns that were too small for her son, and I always returned the favour with a carton of orange juice and a few biscuits as a thankyou. Eventually I stopped accepting anything from her; it seemed better to buy what we needed ourselves rather than feel indebted.

What started as quiet, pleasant strolls turned into an odd relationship. Margaret began asking me for things on a regular basis. What started as a simple request turned into Bring me a cuppa! If someone loves tea, they should brew it themselves instead of begging for it every day. She drops by even though I never invited her over. At the sight of Blythes toys she swoons and repeatedly takes a few to play with at her house. She wants everything. Shes already taken many of our things.

She never invites herself in, claiming her mother is ill, even though her mother lives in a separate flat down the hall. Margaret doesnt hesitate to ask for medicine when her son is under the weather, and she requests items that should be in any ordinary household firstaid kit. Sometimes she even asks for things for herself. I cant understand how anyone can live like that. A simple painkiller should be on hand for any mother. She hands out almost empty packets and bottles, and one of those was bought for my baby, which I can no longer use.

Thats not the whole story. She regularly asks whether we have any food left for her son, yet I never ask anyone else for anything. I cook for my baby and thats it. She constantly uses our shopping trolley without asking. She always wants something she doesnt have, and theres always something missing.

One day her boldness shocked me. When my whole family was ill, I got a call; Margaret said shed come over for tea but would be with her son. I love children, but Im fed up with other peoples kids wandering into our house like theyre in a shop, rummaging through Blythes stuff and picking whatever they fancy. I told her we were all sick and could easily pass the germs on. I should have told her we werent inviting anyone.

Her visits never began with a polite May I come in? She just shows up unannounced and demands, Give me that. It doesnt matter if Im busy or not in the mood; she seems indifferent to my personal space.

I havent called her in ages, nor have I asked her for a walk. Yet she still rings and texts. A friend told me I have two options: keep tolerating her audacity or cut off contact. I dont want to argue; the children are friends and we live close together. Soon well be taking the kids to school together, and Im not sure how to handle a confrontation.

In the end I realised that setting clear boundaries is not selfish; its the only way to keep peace for ourselves and for the ones we love.

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The Neighbour Has Decided She Can Ask for Anything! Now All She Needs is to Move in with Me.