He’s still so young, yet he already wants to tie his life to someone else’s children…
I always knew that this day would come eventually. The day my son, my only heir, would tell me he found the one he wants to spend his life with. But I never thought it would happen so soon.
He’s only 26. It’s a time when life is just beginning, when every path is open before him, when he can build a career, travel, learn new things, and discover himself… But instead, he’s thinking of getting married.
And not just getting married, but marrying a woman who has already been a mother twice.
Starting from scratch with my wife
My wife and I were never wealthy. We built our business from the ground up, starting small. We had no support, no help from others. We invested years of hard work, sleepless nights, and faced the fear of failure.
Now we have a stable income and a decent life. We’re not extravagant, but we can afford many things: travelling, quality education, comfort.
Most importantly, we gave our son everything anyone could dream of. He received a prestigious education and interned overseas. Now he works in our firm, learning the ropes and earning a good salary.
It seemed his future was set—stability, success, comfort. But it’s all collapsing before our eyes.
His choice — our distress
The last few months have been a nightmare for my wife and me.
Our son announced that he wants to get married.
But not to a suitable young woman who shares his views and would be his equal, walking alongside him through life.
Instead, he’s chosen a woman already raising two children.
I tried to understand. I asked myself—what did he see in her? What drew him to her? He’s successful, intelligent, with a whole future ahead of him. And she… She’s ordinary, without standout ambitions, and they say her children are unruly.
We spoke to him, explained that there’s nothing binding them together. They don’t even share common interests. She’s from a different world. We’ve seen her. Beautiful—yes. But that’s all.
How can you build a family based solely on appearances?
Can we stop him?
We don’t know what to do.
If we start putting on pressure, we might only worsen the situation. At his age, restrictions don’t work—he might just turn his back on us.
But watching him potentially ruin his future is something we can’t bear either.
My wife and I discussed taking drastic measures.
If he wants independence so badly, maybe he should try living it.
Should we consider cutting his salary in the company, taking away bonuses? Let’s see how he manages not only himself but also her children.
Or maybe, we should think about taking back the apartment we bought in his name? Let him experience what the real adult world is like.
We don’t want to resort to such measures, but it seems we have no other choice.
We’re fearful that he’ll regret it. That in a few years, when faced with reality, he’ll realize he made a mistake. But by then, it might be too late.
And now we face the question—do we let him make this mistake or do everything in our power to stop him?
