Before we got married, Mark and I dated for five long years. We were together all through university. During that time, we had time to travel, start living in the same apartment, go to our friends’ weddings, and attend his cousin’s wedding with Mark’s parents.
My boyfriend’s mom was always happy for me. I thought she really liked me and we were like friends. Sarah, in her fifties, understood me perfectly, supported my interests and aspirations, and told me that she would be very lucky to have a daughter-in-law when Mark proposed to me. Because of her behavior, I had no doubt that I would suit her.
That all changed when Mark actually proposed marriage. I was really looking forward to this move from him, but he only decided to do it after I showed him a positive pregnancy test. He wasn’t that excited about the baby, because we had just graduated and found jobs, but he wasn’t upset either. Sarah, on the other hand, wasn’t expecting this kind of “catch” from us. She asked why we had a baby so young and how we were going to raise it when we were still children ourselves. She encouraged me to get rid of the baby, but luckily the timing was off.
In order to speed up the wedding, we did not plan a huge number of guests and a fancy celebration, invited only the closest to us. Just not really a long table in the cafe turned out. I hoped my future mother-in-law will help with the organization, but she literally “froze out”, citing the case.
Now I understand that she just did not want to see me and communicate with me. Pretended to be busy, and did not come to our wedding. Everyone was there, even Mark’s relatives from other cities came, but my own mother couldn’t.
What did she have against the child? It would have happened sooner or later, so what’s the problem? Sarah, in my opinion, is living some strange ideas, with her own schedule for the children’s relationship, and grandchildren are not yet part of her plans. But to miss such an important day for Mark and me because of that…that’s a real piggery.
