I have been married for 4 years and almost all this time I have been supporting my husband, because I do not see his salary at all. Now I have a situation, I can not decide what to do next.
My husband is 8 years older than me. Before meeting me, Scott was already married. A daughter was born in the marriage. He and his wife worked hard to get by. But their marriage broke up, and after the divorce, Scott returned to his parents. When I met him, I had the feeling that he was living with a work colleague.
We got married and started living at my place. At that time, my husband’s mother bought an apartment. None of her sons was registered there. The middle son, his wife registered in her apartment. I also registered mine in my apartment. What is the actual question. There is a category of men who blame women for all the world’s troubles, for their problems.
Scott works as a sales manager, the work is difficult, and I understand why he is often nervous and sometimes behaves inadequately. I used to try to smooth out this situation, but now it is difficult. An example: I’m just sitting, looking at him, he turns around sharply and asks me: “What are you looking at?”, or something else prickly can say. Although I was just looking at him.
He does not hear me, he has never supported me in anything when I really needed support. When the situation escalated, Scott would take a suitcase, put his things in it and go to his mother. I could not stand it and after a few days I asked him to come back.
I am not talking about money at all. For all the years we have been living together, I have never seen my husband’s salary. The apartment we live in is mine. I pay for utilities, I also bring home the groceries. Scott keeps saying that he is saving his money for our dream – our own house outside the city. But whether I will ever see it is a question.
This winter the big utility bills came and I asked my husband to help pay for everything. He promised that he would give money, but a month passed and I never saw the money.
On the 31st, I could not stand it and asked my husband where his salary was. I was already tired of his habit of living at my expense. Instead of giving me an answer, Scott started packing his suitcase. Recently, he always does this – packs things and goes to his mother.
My husband is sure that this time I will come and ask him to come back. When he left, I was very sad. And I almost called him again with a request to return. But so far I am restraining myself and thinking what to do next. Maybe I am guilty of something too. It’s just selfishness on his part, I have never seen such a thing. He always blames someone else for everything, even in relation to his first wife. And Scott himself lives only for himself.
Tell me how to behave in this situation, is it worth divorcing?
