Young people often ignore the comments or advice of their elders, and then suffer for it. Not because the elders were right, but because everyone treats them differently.
After the last visit of my wife’s parents, I was very angry. They began to convince us that while our son was still young, we should move to live with them in the village. They said that they would help us with the child, because we were still young and could not cope on our own. I did not agree to their offer, and this is what happened.
I lived in the city all my life, my parents didn’t pay much attention to me, at first I had a nanny, and later I was sent to a kindergarten. And nothing, I grew up like everyone else. I often meet my nanny in the city, and we still remember what a prankster I was.
I saw my mom and dad only in the evening, they were working all the time to provide me with a decent future. But I graduated from a prestigious university, had expensive clothes and a phone. Later I met Samantha. We got married.
I think that if two conscious people decide to get married, they can decide where and with whom to live. But my mother-in-law and father-in-law seem to have a different opinion on this. They have always been there for Samantha, helping her make decisions. Her mother has never worked a day in her life, and her father has been doing odd jobs all his life. And now they decided that their daughter would not cope without them.
I explained to them that we would not live in the village and that we would be able to cope with the child on our own. We are both adults and ready to take responsibility for our child. We will visit them from time to time so that they can play with our grandson, but we are absolutely against living with them.
Then my mother-in-law and father-in-law said they were not going to come to us anymore. Samantha didn’t know what to say to them. On the one hand, they are parents, they want only the best, and on the other hand, if she is really dear to them, they will give their daughter the opportunity to make her own decisions. Especially if it concerns our child.
My parents were very surprised to learn about the offer to live in the village. Why shouldn’t we be able to do it? We were ready for parenthood, so we know how our child will be better off. It seems that my mother-in-law and father-in-law will never allow Samantha to make her own decisions, and she will always be a child for them.
Later, my wife and I really started to have misunderstandings. Samantha was afraid of harming the child, so she would call her mother every time and ask for advice on how to feed her, what to bathe her with, how to put her to bed. The wife is used to consulting her parents about everything, so now it’s really hard for her to make any decisions. I offered her to hire a nanny, but she refused. She doesn’t accept my mom’s help either. So we live like this…
