I married a woman who has a child from her first marriage. The girl’s name is Monica and she is eight years old. She lives with us during the week and with her father on weekends. My wife loves her daughter very much, she fulfills any of her whims. Despite this, the girl is very well-mannered and sensitive. I am glad that my wife and her ex have no misunderstandings about who the child should be with. He makes no attempts to bring Victoria back to him, does not turn the child against me. I would like to have a child with my wife. I am sure Victoria will be a good mother. In general, everything suited me. Until a certain point…
It happened that Monika’s own father started coming to our house to see his daughter. One day I came home from work and saw him in my kitchen. He pretended that nothing had happened, but I was very uncomfortable with this situation. He looked at me and then said goodbye to my daughter and left. No “Good afternoon” or “Goodbye”. The next time I found him again in my house. He was sitting quietly with his daughter and drinking tea. This time the man at least said hello. He stayed with us for half an hour, which seemed like an eternity to me. I must admit that I really don’t like his presence in my house.
We have a one-room apartment. I couldn’t even have a quiet dinner. He behaved as if he were at home. When he takes my daughter to his place, my wife is always at home at that time. He comes, takes her and leaves.
He is so arrogant that I don’t even want to look in his direction. I tried to talk to my wife about this situation. She listened to me, said that she understood everything perfectly well, but she could not do anything about it. She cannot forbid her ex-husband to see her daughter, because he has the same rights to her as Victoria.
I have nothing against that. But can’t we find another place for these meetings? If he doesn’t have enough time with Monika, let him pick her up after school and take her to a cafe or park. I have no desire to communicate with him or see him in my house.
Saying anything to my daughter is not an option. I even thought that Monika and I had become closer recently. It’s scary to imagine her reaction when she finds out that her own father no longer belongs in our home. How will this affect our relationship?
That man comes more and more often, as if on purpose. I don’t want to start a scandal, so I always wait until he leaves and then sit down to dinner. But how long will this go on?
How can I find a way out? Maybe I should talk to him, because he comes to my territory.
