– Our son wakes up every day at least six in the morning! – Emma shares. – I’ve done everything I can to change his regime, but it’s useless. My son wakes up bright and early every morning. The other day he woke up as usual with the first rays of the sun, and I can not open my eyes. I asked my husband to play with my son at least one morning, and I will sleep it off. And he asked me what time it was. I told him it was a quarter to six, and he told me he had just gone to bed an hour ago. At that moment I could hardly hold back my tears. I asked him, “Can’t he work during the day? I had to get up and take care of my son myself.
Emma and Mark are raising a one-year-old son. The couple live in a two-bedroom apartment that they bought with a mortgage. At the time they took out the mortgage, the guy was working at a large Moscow firm. They had already planned to have a baby boy.
– Initially my spouse was against buying a one-room apartment, since he and his parents had lived in a one-room apartment all their childhood, and then my in-laws had their second son. Of course then they bought a bigger place, but Mark from his childhood had a fear of small rooms, he always said that the child should have his own room.
That is why we bought a house in the suburbs, but spacious. After moving, my spouse left the firm and started earning freelance money. Now he does not need to travel to work every day, as he can work from anywhere in the world. Even before the baby was born, the couple had already assigned him a room.
However, at the moment there is a room not with his son, but with his father, as he has organized himself a workroom there. But Emma claims that her husband moved to another room away from his wife and son so that the baby wouldn’t disturb him.
In fact, Mark is now earning a good living, because the family practically lives on his earnings. The guy works seven days a week and takes all the orders he can get. Mark knows that if you refuse once, no one will ask him the second time, but in their family every penny counts and they have no one to rely on.
Lately Mark has started working nights, but his wife is very angry about it. In fact, Emma is loyal to her spouse’s work, but she dislikes that he sleeps most of the day.
The couple’s son is very restless, and apart from everything else his age is very difficult and he demands attention all the time. The child is just beginning to walk and is interested in everything, often falls down and does not understand what is dangerous and what is not. The mother misses a beat, and her son already has a new abrasion or bruise. Because of this, Emma can’t leave her baby unsupervised all day, not even for a second.
The baby also can’t sit in the stroller during the walks, so she has to hold his hand all the time, and in the evening Emma is already exhausted and has back pain.
– I’m so tired during the day that I can’t get enough rest at night, and my son also wakes up very early,” the mother said, “And he may wake up several times during the night – he wants to eat, drink some water, or decide to play. Our doctor says that he should just get over this age – it will pass soon.
Emma also takes care of her son all night long, because her husband works.
– Mark is on the computer until five in the morning. He tells me that for him night is the most productive time. He only wakes up at three in the afternoon, then eats and goes back to work. Sometimes he has time for his son, and it’s no more than five minutes.
My husband began freelancing even before my son was born. At first, Emma was very happy about this, as she hoped that her husband would have time to help her. But in fact it turned out that the husband did not have to wait for any help: either he works, or just went to bed.
– The other day I had the patience to burst, and I told my husband that the sleep should be at night, if at night you do not sleep, then the day did not lay down. I woke him up at ten in the morning, and he is like a zombie: he sits and stares at one point, he needs to repeat himself several times to make him understand what I told him. I think that if nothing changes soon, I will have to file for divorce. I sometimes think that the spouse is comfortable to live this way, because it is a great way to get away from all the family problems, this is the schedule he chose not to do anything at home.
And what do you think in this situation the wife is right or not?