My Sister-in-Law Spent Her Holidays at a Resort While We Renovated, Now She Expects to Live in Comfort in Our Home

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My sister-in-law had been off on holiday at a seaside resort while we slogged through renovations, and now she wants to live in comfort.

I had suggested that she and I pool our funds to renovate the house, but shed brushed it off, claiming she didnt need the money. And yet now shes asking to stay with us because her half of the house is lacking basic comforts. So frankly, its her fault!

The house had belonged to my husbands grandmother. After her passing, it was left to him and his sister. It was a classic, timeworn cottage, but we decided to bring it back to life and move in. It was built with two front doors, so two families could live side by side without treading on each others toes. The garden, both front and back, was shared, and both halves were mirror images in size.

The inheritance was divided when my husband and I were already married. Things were civil and calm. My mother-in-law immediately refused any claim to the houseshed grown quite attached to city life. She simply told her children, Do as you please.

My husband and brother-in-law scraped together some money, fixed the roof, and shored up the foundations. We wanted to press on with the renovations, but my sister-in-law wasnt happy. She was adamant: she had no intention of putting a penny more into what she called that rickety hut. Her husband just hung his head and trailed after herarguing wasnt really his style.

Our plan all along was to make this house our home. The village wasnt far from the city, and with our own car, commuting would be a breeze. Besides, we were fed up with cramming ourselves into a tiny one-bedroom flat. Wed dreamed for years of having a place of our own, but building one from scratch was simply too dear.

As far as my sister-in-law was concerned, this house was nothing but a holiday bolthole. She intended to pop round in the summers, barbecue in the garden, relax under the sun. Shed made it clear not to count on her for help.

Over four years, we completely transformed our half of the house. We had to take out a loan, but that was beside the point. We put in a bathroom, installed central heating, rewired everything, fitted new windows, and freshened up the sunroom. It was round-the-clock workat times it felt endlessbut we stayed true to our dream.

Meanwhile, my sister-in-law was always off on some jaunt. She didnt care what we were doing or that her half was gathering dust. She lived entirely for her own enjoyment, never fretting about responsibility. Then she had a child and went on maternity leave.

Suddenly, her travels stopped, and money grew tight. And then she remembered her portion of the house. It was tough being boxed in with a toddler, and there, at least, the little one could scamper about and play outdoors all day.

By then, wed already moved in, and wed let out our old flat. We hadnt touched her side of the house, but over the years it had literally started to rot. How she thought shed live there, with no heating and just the bare bones, I dont know. But she arrived for a visit with suitcase in tow and began asking to stay in our side for a weekI had to let her in.

Her son is a whirlwind. So is his mother, who blithely does as she pleases, with no thought for anyone else. It was impossible for me to concentrate while working from home, so I packed off to stay with a friend. She happened to be away, so it worked in her favour to have someone looking after the place.

Circumstances landed me back home nearly a month later. Id stayed a week at my friends, then my mother took ill and needed care. Id honestly forgotten all about my sister-in-lawcertain she must have long since gone back to her own home.

Imagine my surprise when I found her still at our house! She was utterly at ease, as if it were her own. I asked her when she intended to leave.

Why should I? Ive got a small child, and were quite comfortable here, was her reply.
Well, well take you into town tomorrow, I told her.
I dont want to go back to town.
If you cant even be bothered to tidy up during your whole stay, then perhaps its time to head homethis isnt a hotel.
By what right are you throwing me out? This is my house!
Your house is right on the other side of the wall. Youre free to stay there.

She tried to get her husband to take her side, but even he told her shed overstayed her welcome. She took umbrage and left in a huff. A few hours later, my mother-in-law began ringing:

You had no right to send her awayits her property!
She couldve stayed in her half; shes mistress of it as she likes, my husband replied.
And hows she supposed to live there with a small child? No heating, loos in the garden. You couldve looked after your own sister!

My husband fumed and told his mother everythingabout how wed offered to renovate together, and that it wouldve been cheaper for everyone that way. Shed wanted nothing to do with it then. So why was everyone suddenly pointing fingers at us now?

We tried to propose another solutionthat my sister-in-law sell her half to my mother. She agreed, but named a sum that would have bought the whole house in immaculate condition. We flat out refused.

Now its nothing but rows. My mother-in-law is perpetually aggrieved, and my sister-in-law is a nuisance. They rarely come, but when they do, its raucous parties, petty pranks, and damage to the garden.

Weve started building a fence, to finally draw a line and keep our sections apart. No more compromises; this is, after all, just what my sister-in-law wanted.

I’m 46, and from the outside, anyone looking at my life would say everything is just fine. I got married young—at 24—to a hardworking, reliable man. Had two children in quick succession—at 26 and 28. I left university because schedules didn’t match, the kids were small, and “there would be time later.” There were never any big arguments or drama. Everything went the way it “should.” For years, my daily routine stayed the same. I’d get up before everyone, make breakfast, leave the house tidy, then head to work. I came home on time, finished chores, cooked, washed, tidied up. Weekends were for family gatherings, birthday parties, obligations. I was always there, always responsible. If something needed doing, I sorted it out. If someone needed something, I provided it. I never asked myself if I wanted anything different. My husband was never a bad man. We had dinner, watched TV, went to bed. He wasn’t particularly affectionate, nor was he cold. He didn’t want much, but didn’t complain either. Our conversations revolved around bills, kids, and chores. Then, on an ordinary Tuesday, I sat in the living room in silence and realised I had nothing to do—not because everything was fine, but because at that moment, no one needed me. I looked around and understood that, for years, I’d held this home together, yet now had no idea what to do with myself in it. That day, I opened a drawer of old papers and found unused diplomas, unfinished courses, notebook ideas, projects left “for later.” I looked through photos from when I was young—before I was a wife, before I was a mum, before I became the fixer of everything. I didn’t feel nostalgic. I felt something worse: the sense that I’d achieved everything without asking myself if it’s what I wanted. I began to notice things I always accepted as normal. No one asked how I was. Even when I came home exhausted, I was the one to solve things. If my husband didn’t want to go to a family gathering, that was fine, but if I didn’t want to go, it was still expected that I would. My opinion existed, but didn’t hold much weight. There were no rows or drama, but there was also no space for me. One night at dinner, I mentioned wanting to resume my studies or try something different. My husband looked puzzled and said, “Why now?” It wasn’t said unkindly. He just couldn’t understand why something that had always worked needed to change. The children said nothing. Nobody argued. No one forbade me. Yet I saw that my role was so clearly set that stepping outside it was uncomfortable. I’m still married. I haven’t left, packed my bags, or made drastic decisions. But I’m no longer fooling myself. I know now that for over twenty years, I’ve lived to keep a structure going where I was needed, but never the main character. How do you rebuild yourself after something like that?

I’m 41 and the house I live in belonged to my grandparents. After they passed away, my mum stayed here, and when she was gone, the house was left to me. It’s always been a quiet, tidy, and peaceful place. I work all day and come home to an empty house. I never imagined that would change because of a choice I made “to help someone out”. Two years ago, a distant cousin called me in tears. She’d split up with her partner, had a young son, and nowhere to go. She asked if she could stay for “a few months” until she got back on her feet. I agreed — she was family, and I thought it wouldn’t affect me much. At first, everything was fine: she took one room, helped with the bills, and was out early each morning for work. Her son stayed with a neighbour. No problems. After three months, she quit her job. She said it was temporary, that she was looking for something better. She started spending all day in the house. Her son stopped going to the neighbour and stayed here instead. The place began to change — toys everywhere, noise, and unexpected visitors. I’d come home exhausted to find strangers sitting in my living room. When I asked her to give me a heads-up, she said I was overreacting and that “this is her home now too”. Eventually, she stopped contributing financially. First it was “just for now”, then she promised to pay me back. I ended up paying for everything: bills, groceries, repairs. One day I came home to find she’d rearranged the furniture “to make it cosier” — she hadn’t asked. When I expressed my annoyance, she got offended and told me I was cold, that I didn’t understand what it meant to live like a family. Things became even more tense when she started having her ex over — the man she claimed she’d left. He would come around in the evenings, stay the night, use the shower, eat the food. One day I found him coming out of my bedroom — he’d borrowed “a jacket”, apparently without asking. That’s when I told her enough was enough — there had to be boundaries. She started crying and shouting, reminding me I’d taken her in when she had nothing. Six months ago, I tried to set a deadline for her to move out. She said she couldn’t — no money, her son’s school nearby, how could I throw her out? I feel trapped. My home doesn’t feel like mine anymore. I come in quietly so I don’t wake the child, eat dinner in my room to avoid rows, and spend more time out than in. I still live here, but it no longer feels like home. She acts as if the house is hers. I pay for everything, yet I’m called selfish whenever I ask for order. I desperately need advice.

LOVING BY ENDURING, ENDURING BY LOVING John and Dorothy’s marriage was blessed in church. On their wedding day, as the bridal party neared the church, a sudden wild summer storm broke out. Out of nowhere, a furious wind tore Dorothy’s bridal veil away, sending it spiraling high into the sky, only to drop, limp, into a muddy puddle. Guests could only gasp in shock as the storm stopped as suddenly as it began. John dashed after the veil, but it was too late. The snow-white veil now lay soiled in a black puddle. Flustered, Dorothy shouted to her fiancé: “John, leave it! I won’t wear it now!” The old ladies sitting near the church bent together and whispered, “A rough start means a stormy marriage…” Dorothy’s friends bought her an artificial white flower and pinned it into her hair. There was no time to look for a new veil. After all, you can’t be late to your own church wedding! So the new bride and groom stood before the altar, holding candles and exchanging sacred vows—to God. But before the church ceremony, they’d already signed the registry and celebrated with a beautiful wedding—for appearances. Three years later, they had two children: Sophie and Arthur. Family life was peaceful and happy. …But ten years after the wedding, a young woman knocked on John and Dorothy’s door. Dorothy always welcomed guests warmly, whether invited or unexpected—feeding them, pouring tea, and offering friendly conversation. But this visitor was different. She came when John was out. With a woman’s instinct, Dorothy sized up the stranger: well-dressed, friendly, strikingly beautiful, and so young. “Hello, Dorothy. I’m Millie. I’m your husband’s future wife,” the stranger said. “How interesting!” Dorothy was taken aback. “And how long has John been engaged to you?” Dorothy asked, entering into the odd conversation. “A while now. But I can’t wait much longer—John and I are having a baby,” Millie replied, unashamed. “Hm… Textbook story! Wife, mistress, illegitimate child…” “Miss, you do realise John and I are married—blessed in church? We have children.” Dorothy tried to reason with her. “I know. But we’re in love—forever! You can get an annulment; after all, your husband hasn’t been faithful. I looked into it.” “Look, Miss!” Dorothy was getting annoyed. “Don’t meddle in another woman’s family. We’ll deal with our love and loyalty.” The girl shrugged and left. Dorothy slammed the door in anger. “She’s so sure of herself! Well, you’re not getting John!” Dorothy couldn’t help but recall how John’s attentiveness had faded lately: working late, sudden business trips, outlandish new hobbies. Every woman can sense another’s presence—a tension in the air, something unsaid… But Dorothy pushed the dark thoughts aside. Maybe she’d imagined it; maybe John was blameless. That evening, after dinner, Dorothy finally broached the difficult subject: “John, are you in love?” she asked directly. He hesitated, “I am.” “Your…woman came by today. Is this serious?” Dorothy’s voice trembled. “I’m a scoundrel! I can’t live without Millie. I tried to end it… I just can’t. Please let me go, Dorothy!” “You’re free…” Dorothy knew appeals to conscience or the children were pointless. Life would decide. And so, John left for his new love. Dorothy turned to the vicar for counsel. After listening kindly, he said, “My child, love bears long, and never fails! You have every right to an annulment—John has strayed. Or you can forgive, pray, and wait. The Lord works in mysterious ways…” Two months later, Dorothy found herself expecting a child—John’s child. Joy blossomed: perhaps it was a sign—maybe John would rethink and return. That hope sustained her through the pregnancy. A healthy baby boy was born. Dorothy’s mother suggested calling him Jack—after all, Jack is the English for John. “Maybe your John will come back—stranger things have happened…” Fortunately, Dorothy’s mother helped in every way—watching the children, feeding them, teaching them sense and kindness. John didn’t forget Sophie and Arthur: he sent gifts, took them to the seaside, left money in envelopes. Dorothy forbade the children to mention little Jack to their dad. Naturally, Sophie spilled the secret during a visit. John assumed Dorothy had found someone new—and felt a pang of jealousy at the memory of their happy past. He never imagined Jack could be his own son. …Meanwhile, John’s new wife, Millie, had a difficult pregnancy. John ran about finding fruit and odd cravings—chalk, pickles… But tragedy struck: Millie gave birth to a stillborn girl. Then a second pregnancy ended in miscarriage. Devastated, Millie wanted a break from motherhood, but fate had other plans… During this time, Dorothy’s old university friend, Victor, began visiting. He’d had eyes for Dorothy back then, but she’d never considered him for a husband—too dutiful, too serious, too attached to his mother, and lacking a sense of humour—though other girls were drawn to him. After meeting John, Dorothy had given Victor the brush-off, but it turned out he’d only quietly stepped away. One rainy autumn day, Dorothy met Victor on the bus. “Mind if I sit here?” he asked. “Of course,” Dorothy replied, barely looking up. He was persistent: “Everything alright, miss?” When he called her by name—“Dorothy, hello! Why so sad?”—she finally looked. “Victor? Goodness, it’s been ages! Where have you been?” They laughed together, and she invited him round. Over wine and fruit, Dorothy poured her heart out. Victor listened, nodded, and comforted her. At the end, she kissed him—on the cheek, just for understanding. Victor left, quietly encouraged. He’d never married himself, it turned out. Victor began visiting Dorothy’s home, bringing gifts for the children, flowers for her. But Dorothy was clear: “You’re welcome here, but I’m waiting for my husband. There will be no impropriety.” Victor accepted even this, preferring to be ‘brother’ to Dorothy and ‘uncle’ to the children, rather than be alone. Meanwhile, Millie finally gave birth to a healthy girl, blessings at last. She and John named her Grace—a name meaning ‘blessed’. Millie devoted herself to motherhood and often thought back to her talk with Dorothy: “Stolen happiness brings no joy—only pain.” Only now did she truly realise the sorrow she’d caused. She longed to throw herself at Dorothy’s feet and beg forgiveness. John doted on their daughter Grace—spoiling her with toys, cradling her at night, cherishing bath time. Years passed; the children grew older, and the adults matured too. Then, tragedy struck—Millie fell gravely ill at just thirty. Hospitals, doctors, treatments—John did everything for her. When the end approached, Millie asked, “Please, John, take me to see your first wife—Dorothy.” John was surprised but agreed. Dorothy already knew Millie was ill—her daughter, Sophie, still visited John and had told her. So, when John called, Dorothy consented readily. Carrying frail Millie inside, John laid her carefully on the bed. The family gathered, waiting, as Dorothy sat by her side. “Forgive me, Dorothy, if you can. God’s justice has caught up with me. Please, promise me you’ll raise Grace—she’ll have no one but you, John, and your family,” Millie pleaded through tears. Holding her hand, Dorothy said gently, “Millie, we punish ourselves—not God! I forgave you long ago! Don’t worry about Grace, she will never be left alone. Stay here with us, both you and John, until you’re stronger. There’s room for everyone in this house! I promise—you’ll get better! With God, anything is possible. Don’t lose hope.” The house became like something from a fairy tale—there was shelter and care for all. Everyone helped look after Millie, but it was Victor who proved the most devoted—always by her side, comforting her. In time, he realised he’d fallen in love with her, just as he adored little Grace. Millie began to fight for her life; she clung to hope, and slowly, surely, improved. Six months of struggle passed. Gradually, Millie could walk in the garden and bask in the sunlight. Life returned by degrees… Millie pondered Victor. She still loved John, but another woman’s husband is off-limits—she’d learnt that lesson well. But Victor was kind, gentle, and cared for her child as his own. Such families too can flourish, where one’s love is enough for both. She would try to let Victor’s love grow. Recovery was slow, but real. Then, finally, during a family meal, Millie spoke: “Dorothy, John, Grace and I—and Victor—are leaving. Thank you for your kindness. I may never meet such wonderful people again. Bless you all from the bottom of my heart!” John and Dorothy exchanged glances. They’d seen the bond growing between Millie and Victor—LOVE. Some time before, John had shared with Dorothy: “No matter what happens between you and Millie, I want—I need—to be with you. Your generosity knows no bounds. Will you take me back? We must raise our three children together. I’ll beg at your feet for forgiveness!” “What do you think, John? Of course I will! I ought to be the one asking your forgiveness. Life teaches us all…” Dorothy kissed her once-wayward husband. “And Grace?” Dorothy pressed. “Her happiness matters too.” “Grace is my daughter. She will never suffer for my mistakes. My door will always be open to her,” John vowed. Victor, Millie, and Grace prepared to leave. At the door, Millie turned to John: “Love Dorothy. More than life—love her! Never hurt her. I’ll always remember you, John.” “Be happy, Millie,” John replied…