I’m in a very difficult situation. I am 34 years old. I’m not married. I work very hard and am saving up money to buy myself another apartment, which I could rent out and have an additional source of income. After that, I dreamed of quitting my job and traveling. My older sister Arina, on the other hand, has a very different life. My sister married Anton and hasn’t worked since. I’ve told her many times:
– Why don’t you work? After all, anything can happen to your husband. What will you do then?
But my sister flatly refused to get a job. And then recently something happened that I warned my sister about. Her husband became very ill and now they really need money for his treatment. A lot of money. Yesterday Arina called and asked me for money for the treatment. I do have money: after all, I have been collecting money for many years to buy myself a second apartment. But Arina asked me for a very large sum of money. And I immediately asked her:
– And when will you give me the money?
After all, I knew that it would be very problematic. If my husband wouldn’t work, and Arina had never worked at all, where would they get the money to pay back the debts? Arina got married and had two children. And after that she didn’t work at all. She only took care of the house and the children.
Her husband provided for his family very well. For 15 years of marriage he was able to earn money to buy an apartment, in which they made a wonderful renovation. They also bought a nice car and traveled often. They lived very well.
Arina used to say:
– I’m not going to work! I have too much to do as it is!
But now it turns out that now her husband can’t work. His illness is very advanced. Arina is now looking for money for her husband’s treatment. She is asking relatives, friends, and acquaintances for money. She has even already sold her car. I work in a good position and earn good money, but I work very hard.
I have a dream: I want to buy an apartment until I’m 45 and not work anymore. I want to rent an apartment and go traveling. I didn’t say no to my sister when she asked me for money. I just asked her to write me a receipt and tell me when she could give it to me. And Arina just thanked me and promised to think about how she would pay me back.
And two hours later my mother called me and gave me a scandal:
– What are you doing? After all, Arina – your sister, and she is not asking you for money to rest, and for the treatment of her husband! And you demand a receipt from her and ask when she will pay you back! You know how hard it is for your sister! She doesn’t work, she has two children and her husband is so sick! And you give her money in debt! You should just give money to your sister and not ask for it back!
But I think my mother is wrong. It is Arina’s own fault that she does not work. She just did not want to work. And I earn my money by hard work. Why should I give it away for nothing? Who do you think is right, me or my mother?
