– How can you do this? After all, it’s your own daughter! – My mother-in-law scolded my mother. – Parents are supposed to help their children!
Richard and I got married two years ago. Richard only has a mother, but I have parents and a little brother. My mother-in-law lives in a two-room apartment, and my parents also live in a two-room apartment. But Richard and I decided right away that we were going to live separately. Although my mother-in-law offered to let us live with her, Richard and I refused right away. And a year and a half ago my grandmother died. My mother and her brother in law inherited my grandmother’s apartment. My uncle had two children.
And so when it was necessary to decide what to do with the apartment, my mother and uncle consulted and decided to rent it for the time being. Tenants were living in the apartment. And two months before we got married, they moved out.
I asked my mother to arrange with my uncle that we should rent the apartment now. My uncle didn’t care as long as he got money. My mother gave up her share of the rent right away.
– Just pay the rent, please, and that’s it. And collect the money. Maybe you can still buy an apartment with a mortgage. Well, maybe you can buy it back! – my mother told me.
My mother-in-law knew that we would be living in the apartment that belonged to my mother and my uncle. But my mother-in-law knew nothing about the fact that we were paying for this apartment.
We paid all the utilities and transferred money to my uncle’s card. We decided not to rush with the children just yet. We wanted to buy our own place first. That’s why we didn’t buy anything extra and saved on everything. But my mother-in-law never gave us a break. She was always asking: Why don’t we have children?
– Oh, why are you so pale? Don’t you feel sick? Maybe you’re pregnant after all.
– I think you’ve gained weight! You must be pregnant! – My mother-in-law would ask me questions from time to time.
Every time my mother-in-law came to visit us, she would start talking about babies again. And then my uncle came to visit us just as my mother-in-law was visiting. His card had expired and he came to collect the money.
When my mother-in-law found out, she said:
– So you pay money for this apartment?
– Yes, we do! We pay the utilities and we pay my uncle the rent!
– How come? He’s your relative, isn’t he?
– Why? It’s okay! It’s not like we own the apartment. We’d have to rent it anyway!
– Now I understand why you don’t have children! – my mother-in-law said.
Then my mother-in-law called my mother and started scolding her.
– Parents are supposed to help their children! And you take money from your own daughter! I had a better opinion of you! Now I understand why we still haven’t become grandmothers.
And my mother said:
– I help the kids as much as I can. It’s not like I’m charging them rent. And my brother doesn’t have to help my daughter! And what did you do to help my daughter and your son?
Anyway, our parents had a fight. My mother-in-law asked me to move in with her.
– I had a spare room in my apartment! And with the baby I would have helped you!
But my husband and I refused right away. We’d rather pay the money, but we’ll live separately and be completely independent.