30November 2025
Dear Diary,
This morning Eleanor rushed into the hallway, clutching the strap of her handbag, and begged me: Andrew, please keep an eye on my mum while Im at work. You know how much the kitchen remodel set us back and how Im on edge about every scratch on the cabinets. I smiled, lifted my coffee cup and waved her concerns away.
Eleanor, calm down, I said. Mums only staying for a week while the plumbers sort out the burst pipe at her place. Shes not a storm to weather. Shell just make a pot of stew, so you wont have to stand at the stove all night.
Eleanor laughed weakly, planted a quick kiss on my cheek and hurried out, her heart clearly not in the right place. That kitchen is her sanctuary. For three months we worked with a designer, picking a deep matte graphite finish, a natural stone worktop, sleek hidden handles the whole of it a lesson in minimalist luxury that cost us a small fortune in pounds. Every blemish feels like a personal injury.
Mum, Margaret Thompson, arrived yesterday evening a boisterous, opinionated woman with unwavering ideas of what cozy looks like. She surveyed the flat and declared, Young folks have a hospitalclean flat spotless but utterly dull. Eleanor merely nods, attributing it to travel fatigue.
The workday drags on. I keep checking my phone, halfexpecting a call from Eleanor, but I remind myself Im the adult here and promised to watch over the place. Besides, I have a client call at noon and cant afford to be distracted.
At lunch I finally give in and ring her.
Hey, hows Mum? I ask.
Her voice trembles a little. Shes being subtle. She baked a pie and the smells wafting through the whole building.
Subtle? I repeat, trying not to sound amused. Is she fiddling with the oven? The control panel?
She sighs, Shes clever, shes got it under control. Ive got a Zoom meeting, talk later? and hangs up. The phrase being subtle now feels like a threat could mean anything from washing dishes to rearranging furniture.
The rest of the day is a nervous waiting game. I picture oil stains on the matte panels, chips in the stone, melted plastic boards. When I get home, the reality surpasses even my worst daydreams.
As soon as I step out of the lift, a thick scent of frying onions, yeasty dough and, oddly, bleach hits me like a wall. I fumble with the frontdoor key.
Im home! I shout, shedding my shoes.
Silence greets me. Only the cheerful clatter of dishes and Margarets humming drift from the kitchen. I walk down the corridor and see the kitchen door ajar. I push it open and freeze, my bag spilling to the floor.
The kitchen I knew has vanished.
First thing that hits you is colour vivid, blaring, unapologetic. The immaculate stone worktop is now covered with a bright orange tablecloth dotted with oversized sunflowers; the edges hang in uneven waves, hiding the lower drawers.
Margaret, wearing a garish floral apron shes never owned before, spins around from the stove, beaming. Eleanor, dear, Ive been whipping up treats! Look at this, isnt it lively?
I cant find words. My eyes dart over the disaster. Vinyl stickers of butterflies pink, blue, lime, handsized plaster every cabinet door.
Where did those come from? I ask, feeling my left eye twitch.
Oh, I grabbed them at the market while I was out for milk. The flat was all grey and dreary, like a crypt. I thought a splash of summer would do the trick. And Andrew liked them, didnt you?
Andrew steps in, looking guilty, eyes darting to his socks.
Mum, I told you she might not like it he mutters.
Like what? Margaret snaps, waving a spatula. I added warmth! A kitchen cant be a tomb.
My favorite Romanstyle curtains, a deep wet asphalt hue, have vanished, replaced by a frilly white voile with golden embroidered swans.
Where are my curtains? I whisper.
Theyre in the wash, dear. They were looking dull, so I borrowed some from my suitcase. They brighten the room, dont they? she replies, flipping a sizzling pancake.
I lift the edge of the sunflower cloth and find a sticky patch underneath.
Why cover the stone? I protest.
The stone is cold, your elbows freeze! I rolled out some dough and feared a mess, so I tucked the cloth over it. It was cheap, from the discount store, but looks splendid.
My temper erupts like a volcano. I glance at the fridge a twometre steel behemoth I forbade anyone to touch now plastered with magnets of pigs, cats and Golden Ring towns.
Theyre mine, Margaret declares proudly. I brought them from home. The fridge needed personality.
I take a deep breath, forcing calm.
Andrew, can I have a word in the bedroom? I say, voice icecold.
He follows me, and Margaret calls after us, Dont whisper, love, the foods getting cold!
In the bedroom, I close the door and turn to him.
You promised to keep an eye on her.
I was on a call, then I stepped away for water, and the butterflies appeared. I thought shed be pleased. I couldnt tear them down, shed be hurt.
The stickers could damage the finish! The glue will eat the softtouch coating! I snap.
He looks bewildered. I cant confront her. Shes your mother, shes fragile. Lets wait a week, shell be gone.
A week? I gasp. I cant drink coffee surrounded by golden swans and plastic butterflies for a week!
He pleads, Please, Ill get you a spa voucher. No drama, just a quiet week while shes away for repairs.
Seeing his desperation, my anger softens into a dull ache.
Fine. I wont make a scene now. Ill remove the cloth. Ill put the curtains back this evening. Ill say Im allergic to synthetic fabrics.
We return to the kitchen. Margaret has already set the table. Under the sunny tablecloth sit steaming bowls of borscht and a mound of deepfried pastry.
Take a seat, you two! she commands. More sour cream?
I sit, appetite gone, but the aroma is tempting. I pick up a spoon, trying not to stare at a caterpillar sticker right in front of me.
Margaret, thank you for dinner, I begin diplomatically. But regarding the décor I have a very specific taste. I prefer a clean, uncluttered space.
Thats not taste, thats depression, love, she retorts, biting into a pastry. A woman needs flowers, frills thats feminine energy. Your flat looked like an operating theatre. A man feels uneasy in such sterility. Right, Andrew?
Andrew chokes on his soup.
Mum, why? I whisper.
She sighs, Your shampoos are all in identical bottles, I labelled them. I added a fluffy pink rug for warmth, replaced the glass partition with a dolphinthemed curtain. It all makes the place feel livedin.
I rise slowly, Thanks, it was delicious.
She whispers to Andrew, See? Shes exhausted, nothing makes her happy anymore. She needs vitamins.
The bathroom, once a sleek whitemarble sanctuary, now resembles a nursery. A toxicpink shag rug sprawls on the floor, dispensers for shampoo and soap are tagged with permanentmarker labels: FOR HAIR, FOR BODY, SOAP. The glass screen is draped in a cheap bluedolphin plastic curtain, bolted to the tiles.
I sit on the tub edge, cover my face with my hands, feeling a wave of helplessness. It isnt just bad taste; its an invasion under the guise of care.
After ten minutes, Andrew peeks in.
Ill sort a hotel for Mum. A decent one with breakfast. Ill pay.
I cant live in this circus, Andrew. Shes ruined my things. Look at the markers on the dispensers! They wont come off!
Ill clean with alcohol, dont panic.
Its not about the alcohol. Its that she treats my home like a playground, like a cat marking territory.
Suddenly the kitchen erupts with a crash, shattered glass, and Margarets shrill scream.
Andrew and I rush in. The scene is chaotic: a heavy oak shelf that once hung above the table has toppled, taking with it three flower pots Margaret had apparently decided to display. Water pools on the floor, shards of glass glitter.
I was only trying to water a geranium, she stammers, clutching her chest. I thought the shelf was sturdy.
I point to the wall where the shelf was anchored. Large holes gape in the plaster.
The shelf was meant for a couple of picture frames, not for three pots of soil, I state calmly. The plaster is decorative; fixing it will cost as much as a small car. Well need a full rebuild.
Margaret wafts backward, eyes wide. Everything you own is flimsy! In my day furniture was built to last. This this is cardboard!
I step over the broken pieces, run a finger along the torn edge of the wall.
Its a premium decorative plaster, worth a fortune per square metre. Restoring it invisibly is impossible without redoing the whole wall.
She collapses into a sob. Do we have to rip it all out? Maybe just a picture or a rug?
No, I say firmly. Andrew, gather Mums belongings.
He? both ask.
Were calling a taxi. Ill book the Central Hotel; its decent. Mum will stay there until her own repairs finish. She wont set foot in this flat again.
Are you evicting my mother? she gasps, clutching her chest. Because of a hole in the wall?
Andrew looks pale, eyes flicking between the ruined wall and my stern face. He knows his mothers temperament; arguing now would be futile.
Mum, youre right, you did go too far, he says quietly. The kitchens been wrecked.
I was only trying to make it cosy! she shrieks. You ungrateful children!
Fine, pack up, I reply. Andrew will help. Ill start pulling down the butterfly stickers.
Margaret throws a fit, grabs the sunflower cloth, the magnets, the dolphin curtain, and stuffs everything into a suitcase, wailing about the snake under the bed and the disgrace of my sons house.
I stand in the doorway, watching Andrew lug the suitcase out. I feel no shame, only a quiet sorrow for the damaged wall, my nerves, and my husband caught in the middle. I realise that swallowing this now would only breed more resentment.
When the last door shuts, a ringing silence settles over the flat.
I walk back to the kitchen, assess the battlefield: splintered floorboards, gaping holes, remnants of glue where butterflies once clung, the lingering scent of fried pastry. I fetch trash bags, a step ladder, adhesive remover and a putty knife.
I carefully peel off the remaining stickers; fortunately the highquality finish releases the glue without damage. I strip the garish bathroom curtain, reinstall the original glass screen after wiping away the marker from the dispensers, and toss the pink rug.
Two hours later, the apartment looks almost as it did before, save for the wall scars reminding me of the unwanted coziness. Andrew slips back in, soft as a mouse.
I booked the hotel, shes still ranting on the phone, telling everyone shes been kicked out in the cold. Its 20°C outside, mind you.
Let her rant, I shrug. At least shes not here.
He sighs, Im sorry, love. I should have stopped her earlier. I grew up with her running the household, reorganising my room, tearing down my posters because they were ugly. I thought it was normal.
I look at him, the first warmth of the evening reaching my eyes.
This isnt care, Andrew. Its control. Im glad you finally see the difference. Well have the wall repaired Ive already found a tradesperson for tomorrow. From now on, visits only on holidays, and never overnight.
He nods. Agreed.
He pulls the rubbish bag, scoops the leftover pastries, and asks, Want a pizza?
Sure, with double cheese. Lets fling the windows open and air out this cozy.
We sit on the lounge floor, sharing takeaway pizza as the night breeze sweeps through, carrying away the smell of fried oil and cheap perfume. The wall still bears its wounds, but I know theyre fixable. Most importantly, I defended my boundaries and finally found a true ally in my husband.
Lesson learned: love may come wrapped in good intentions, but when it crosses into control, you must draw the line even if it means asking the very people you cherish to step outside your own home.












