So, listen to thismy mother-in-law has decided she wants to move into our flat, and hand hers over to her daughter.
You know, my husband grew up surrounded by brothers and sisters; big family. His mum kept having kids until she finally got a daughter, which is a bit of an odd approach if you ask me, but anyway, it’s not really my place to judge.
When I married John, I honestly thought I’d hit the jackpot. He came across as reliable, brave, strong. He knew the meaning of family, but cutting himself off from his mum and his little sister was never on the cards. Funnily enough, his mum never really paid much attention to her sons it was always all about her daughter.
Emily thats his sister was about ten when we first met. At the start, I didnt mind her, but after five years, things got a bit much. She couldnt stand school, was always hanging out with shady lads, and John constantly had to pick up the pieces. She could ring him at two in the morning needing something, and hed be straight out the door.
I always hoped Emily would grow out of it, settle down, and everything would fall into place. But nope! When she finally decided to get married, my mother-in-law insisted that the brothers all chip in for the wedding, because she couldnt afford it herself. Her son-in-law didnt earn much at all, either, so the newlyweds ended up living with Johns mum.
They ended up having two kids, and my mother-in-law realised she couldnt cope with everyone under one roof anymore. So she came up with the perfect planfor her, anyway: shed move in with us, and let Emily and her lot have her flat. But heres the thingI paid for our flat myself, not a penny from John. And hes totally fine with all this, saying, My mum will help you around the house!
Weve only got a two-bedroom flat! I dont want to give up our space or start sharing my home. But my mother-in-law seems convinced were obliged to take her in, since Johns the eldest son and should look after her.
I do love John, and splitting up is not an optionbut how do I get him to see sense? How do I make him realise that living with his mum would be a nightmare? If youve got any advice, seriously, Id love to hear it.
