You wouldnt believe the drama going on with Adams parentsthey just wont let it go, and theyre obsessed with the idea of reuniting him with his ex-wife. His mum will sigh and say things like, Dont you see, they have a son together! as if that excuses everything.
So, heres the backstory. I married Adam, and, honestly, his parents have refused to accept that their sons been divorced for over four years now. They keep trying to patch things up between Adam and his ex. Adam and I got married three years ago and were genuinely happy together.
His mum thinks Adam rushed the divorce and made a silly mistake. Shes convinced he should do whatever it takes to rebuild a relationship with his exs family, since, of course, his son still lives there.
When I met Adam, he was already divorced, and apparently they split on good terms. His ex even remarried and seems pretty content. Rumour is, actually, shed met someone else and that was that.
Adam once told me, Maybe we made a mistake getting married. My mum pushed for it because she got pregnant, and, to be honest, I wasnt in love. We were just going out. If she hadnt been expecting, I would never have married her. Thats the honesty I got from him.
I never worried much about the ex. From the start, I tried to figure Adam out. I quickly realised hes not pining for his old familyhes just indifferent towards his ex. Same from her: shed moved on, remarried, and the only contact between them is about their son.
But Adams mum just cant accept things as they are. His dads the same. Theyre always trying to reunite the old family and they really dont approve of Adam and me.
One time, his mum pulled me aside and said, Youre young, youve got your whole life ahead of you. Why get tangled up in someone elses family? I told her, if Adam were still married, Id never have got involved. But hes divorced now, so whats the issue? She started to argue but Adam walked in and she dropped it. Thats when I figured Id never have a close relationship with her, but I wasnt fussed.
We had our wedding and moved in together. I barely saw his mum after thatapart from the odd family gathering. Thats honestly the only time I have to sit and listen to her moan about the old family. Adam tries to shut her down, but she never changes.
Neither of us felt any rush to have kids; I couldnt picture myself as a mum, and Adam already had a son, which his mum seemed happy about.
After Adam got divorced, his mum really went all in. She started inviting his ex round for Christmas, gushed over them as a couple, praised her for every little thing.
Adams ex, Emma, couldnt care less. Shed just turn up, say little, and that was that. You could sense her indifference.
Adams mum would try to stir up drama, hoping Adam would get jealous over Emma or that Id get jealous about them. Shed ring me up and ask if I knew where Adam wasif I didnt, shed assume hed gone to see his ex. Shed come up with all sorts of things.
The thing is, Im not a jealous person, but the whole situation drives me up the wall. From the outside, Adam and Emma are just two people with a child and absolutely no interest in rekindling anything. Having a son together does complicate things a bitAdam sends money to his ex, chats with his son sometimes, and brings him round to visit us. Emma doesnt cause trouble, doesnt ask for more money, and never tries to make things awkward. She seems perfectly reasonable and civil. They just get on with life separately, and they respect each other.
But Adams mum just doesnt get it. Shes always up to something. When will it end? Will she ever accept it? Adam reckons everything will calm down once I give her a grandchild, but I dont buy it for a second.
