You know, I honestly think this whole situation is going to cause quite the stir with my friends and family. Im almost embarrassed to admit whats been running through my mind lately, but I cant help myself. Every time I think about whats coming up for our family, I feel a lump in my throat and could just burst into tears. I reckon Im heading into a bit of a low mood, to be honest. So, weve been married for over twelve years now, both of us have jobs, and weve got two children.
My mother-in-laws been poorly for ages. Shes suffering with arthritis and diabetes, and being on the heavier side makes it difficult for her to get about the flat. Shes living on her own, so everyday life can be a real struggle. Mum-in-law finds it hard to look after herself, cant really manage with cooking and cleaning. Every week, my husband and I pop round with her shopping, I help tidy her place, do a big batch of meals for her, and lend a hand when she needs to get washed. Its just become part of our routine, these weekly trips over to hers. Now and then work gets in the way and we cant make it, but thats not too often.
I do genuinely love my mother-in-law. She brought up her son all by herself, put a lot into him and gave up her own personal happiness (her husband passed away when she was 45, and she never remarried). Shes also been there for us financially thanks to her, we managed to pay off our mortgage. So theres no way Id refuse to look after her or to help out. But, my husband recently told me that after the New Year, his mum will be moving in with us. He said itll be easier, since we wont have to keep going back and forth, and looking after her will be a lot more straightforward. He reckons itll give him more peace of mind.
I do understand where my husbands coming from, but I cant help picturing what this is going to mean for us at home. Our flats got three bedrooms. Me and my husband share one, and the kids each have their own. If Mum-in-law moves in, shell get one of those rooms. The kids are definitely going to argue they both need their own space. As much as I hate to admit it, I feel like my mother-in-law will become a bit of a burden. Would you feel the same if you were in my shoes? Id really like to know what you all think.
