Honestly, I reckon this whole situation is probably going to set off all sorts of awkward conversations among my friends and family. Honestly, I feel embarrassed even thinking the things Im thinking. But I cant help itevery time I picture whats likely coming our way, I get this sinking feeling in my stomach and have to fight back tears. Sometimes I wonder if Im starting to feel a bit down about the whole thing. My husband and I have been married for over twelve years now. We both work, and weve got two kids.
My mother-in-laws been unwell for ages. Shes got arthritis and diabetes, and since shes overweight, even getting around her flat is a real struggle. She lives on her own, which just makes daily life that much trickier for her. Looking after herself, cooking, cleaningits all hard work. So every week, my husband and I do a food shop for her, I tidy up the flat, cook her meals for the week, and help her have a proper wash. These weekly trips have just become a part of our routine, although, every now and then, work gets in the way and we cant make itthough that doesnt happen too often.
I do genuinely love my mother-in-law. She raised her son alone and really put everything into himshe sacrificed any chance at her own happiness. I mean, her husband passed away when she was only 45, and she never remarried. Shes always supported us, even financially. Thanks to her, we managed to pay off our mortgage. Theres no way Id ever turn my back on her or refuse to help out. But my husband came out with something recently thats got me all at sixes and sevensafter New Years, he wants his mum to move in with us. He thinks itll be less hassle, no more back-and-forth, and hell be less stressed.
As much as I get where my husbands coming from, I cant help but picture how different everythings going to be. Weve got a three-bedroom flat, right? My husband and I have one, and the kids have a room each. If my mother-in-law moves in, shell get one of those rooms, which means the kids will have to share, and I can see them arguing already. I feel so ashamed to admit this, but I cant help seeing my mother-in-law as a bit of a burden at the moment. Has anyone else been in this sort of situation? Id really like to hear what youd do if you were in my shoes. Let me knowI’d appreciate your thoughts.
